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Pacs · Feb 21, 2013, 08:23 PM

Is there anything I can do to have my sons father legally out of his life? He won't sign over his rights just to bug me. He didn't want my child to begin with and still doesn't want him. He doesn't pay child support. My son is almost 7 months...

odinn7 · Feb 21, 2013, 08:26 PM

Have you gone to court for child support?

Pacs · Feb 21, 2013, 08:33 PM

That's in the works...

Pacs · Feb 21, 2013, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by Pacs

That's in the works...

I know he has rights but he doesn't want him he told me to my face he wants nothing to do with him... " I don't have time to deal with him" meaning I'd rather go to bars get smashed and pick up chics.. I don't care as long as he was a good father but he doesn't want him. He doesn't see him. :( so confused

odinn7 · Feb 21, 2013, 08:40 PM

You can't make him see the boy. The unfortunate thing is that too many fathers aren't really fathers... they don't care and it is unimaginable to me how that is possible. It happens though and it is too common. So you can't make him see your son or care for him but you can make him pay child support... and you should make him do it.

Also, from what I understand, the signing his rights away doesn't happen. It's not possible. If you had someone that was willing to adopt, I think then he would need to sign but he can't just sign away all responsibility simply because he wants nothing to do with your son.

Pacs · Feb 21, 2013, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by odinn7

You can't make him see the boy. The unfortunate thing is that too many fathers aren't really fathers....they don't care and it is unimaginable to me how that is possible. It happens though and it is too common. So you can't make him see your son or care for him but you can make him pay child support...and you should make him do it.

Also, from what i understand, the signing his rights away doesn't happen. It's not possible. If you had someone that was willing to adopt, I think then he would need to sign but he can't just sign away all responsibility simply because he wants nothing to do with your son.

Ok thanks! So let's say in a few yrs from now he grows up n decides he wants to see his son do I have to just let him? And if so do I have to allow him to leave my house? I don't trust him alone with my child.. Especially because he drinks... A lot... That's a whole other story on its own.. I can't exactly drop my son off at his house because his parents now live with him and they don't know about my son

odinn7 · Feb 21, 2013, 08:54 PM

When you do the court thing, it should all be laid out there what needs to be done and what either of you can and can't do.

Pacs · Feb 21, 2013, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by odinn7

When you do the court thing, it should all be laid out there what needs to be done and what either of you can and can't do.

Ok thank you!

ScottGem · Feb 21, 2013, 09:16 PM

Where did you get the idea he can just sign over his rights? That's just a myth.

But no, if in a few years he decides he wants to be a father, you do not have to just allow him. You can force him to go to court to obtain visitation. The court will then look at the fact that he has previously denied the child and they will, likely, dictate supervised visitation at least initially.

But you agreed to have sex with this man. The court will look at that and figure if he was good enough to have sex with, he is good enough to be a father. That was risk you took when you agreed to sex.

Pacs · Feb 21, 2013, 09:45 PM

Originally Posted by ScottGem

Where did you get the idea he can just sign over his rights? That's just a myth.

But no, if in a few years he decides he wants to be a father, you do not have to just allow him. You can force him to go to court to obtain visitation. The court will then look at the fact that he has previously denied the child and they will, likely, dictate supervised visitation at least initially.

But you agreed to have sex with this man. The court will look at that and figure if he was good enough to have sex with, he is good enough to be a father. That was risk you took when you agreed to sex.

Well I'm not going to get into that with you... But yea I thought he was a going to be a good father considering he has a daughter from a long time ago. But he spent his young yrs caring for her... And when he knocked me up he decided he didn't want to do it again at the age of 40... So to answer your question yes I thought he was good enough, even to be my husband but when I got pregnant it all changed and he became the 25 yr old he never got to be... If the courts ask I will have no problems telling them that.

Sorry but that last comment ticked me off... I'm not a teen sleeping around I was in a serious relationship or so I thought. And like the previous person who comment on my post said there are many men like this.. Unfortunately... We don't choose this.

Thanks for letting me know I can go to court and try to get supervised visitations if he try's to come see him

ScottGem · Feb 22, 2013, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by Pacs

Sorry but that last comment ticked me off... I'm not a teen sleeping around I was in a serious relationship or so I thought. And like the previous person who comment on my post said there are many men like this.. Unfortunately... We don't choose this.

I'm sorry the comment ticked you off, but you need to understand the reality. The questions I asked are the questions that will be asked in court. We don't sugarcoat things here. If you have good answers to those questions the better for you. You gave us very few details and I based my response on what you posted.