[Thewhitecap]

Ok so after five years this girl that I talked to for maybe a week or two said I could be the father of her 4yr old son... I ended up taking the at home dna swabs and they came back that he was mine (not court ordered) I live in Rhode Island. When I took the at home test was the first time I saw the kid . She is married now and had another kid. Now for the questions... am I liable for child support... Can I sign my rights over since it be 4 yrs and it be in the best interest of the child to still think her husband is the father...

[smoothy]

No you can't sign away any rights...

If she comes after you for child support, get another DNA test done... and pay what they order... if she puts it up for adoption then don't oppose it, if her husband decides to adopt it... is just the same. Adoption is the only way you are going to get out of any support requirements. However you really don't have a lot of input there other that agreeing to it.

[Fr_Chuck]

You can sign your rights if she wishes her husband to adopt the child.
But only then.

Yes you should start paying support, but she can take you to court to get it.

* I do not agree it is in the child's best interest to believe a lie or be lied to about this. Child should always know the truth

It is in YOUR best interest not to pay support

With that said, home DNA tests are not very reliable, So I would not base any decision on one of those tests. I would confirm with a real lab that is court approved

[Thewhitecap]

You can sign your rights if she wishes her husband to adopt the child.
But only then.

Yes you should start paying support, but she can take you to court to get it.

* I do not agree it is in the child's best interest to believe a lie or be lied to about this. Child should always know the truth

it is in YOUR best interest not to pay support

With that said, home DNA tests are not very reliable, So I would not base any decision on one of those tests. I would confirm with a real lab that is court approved

How about back support for past 4+ yrs?

[Thewhitecap]

No you can't sign away any rights....

If she comes after you for child support, get another DNA test done...and pay what they order....if she puts it up for adoption then don't oppose it, if her husband decides to adopt it...is just the same. Adoption is the only way you are going to get out of any support requirements. However you really don't have a lot of input there other that agreeing to it.

A lot of input on what?

[smoothy]

Alot of input on what?

Meaning you can't make her put it up for adoption... or much else... without court ordered visitation or even shared custody... or even court recognised status as the father... you really can't do anything. Until then.. its all her decision. YOu can't decide you aren't going to pay... all she has to do is go to court for support... and if the courts DNA tests proves you are the father.. you are on the hook at least until they are 18.. and depending on where everyone resides... maybe even until 21 including college costs.