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2011 · Feb 13, 2013, 03:06 PM

My husband is not interested in doing sex with me. Whenever he starts sex he ejaculates too early without satisfying me and also he is not interested in forplay.

I feel much irritation and always tell him to satisfy me but he never bothers.
What to do?

fredg · Feb 13, 2013, 03:30 PM

I was divorced the first time after 7 yrs of marriage, then remarried for 30 yrs. So, I have experienced what you are talking about. Have you thought about seeing a marriage counselor? Do you think he will talk about it with one?
A good marriage has to have respect, honesty, caring, and a willingness to talk about anything. He really doesn't respect and care for you. If he did, he would do everything to have you feel as great as you can during sex!
If he won't talk about this, it might be time to consider leaving, if it's that important to you.

Homegirl 50 · Feb 13, 2013, 03:51 PM

You have to let him know that sex is a partner thing, not just for him. It's not that he's not sexually attracted, he is a selfish lover.
Have you thought about counseling?

Enigma1999 · Feb 13, 2013, 04:53 PM

I wouldn't have sex with him until he satisfies YOU first!

Alty · Feb 13, 2013, 05:11 PM

What culture are you? By the way you write, I have the feeling you're not American, or Canadian. Do you live in a culture where women don't have a lot of rights? If so, his mentality about sex isn't really a surprise.

When you have sex do you expect him to bring you to orgasm? Do you know how to get yourself to orgasm? How old are both of you?

Sex isn't something that everyone is naturally good at. It may be that he really has no clue how to satisfy you. Instead of demanding that he makes you happy in bed, why not show him how?

talaniman · Feb 13, 2013, 05:20 PM

Maybe you both need to know how to communicate with each other.

MadlyInLove · Feb 14, 2013, 01:44 AM

I wouldn't say that it sounds like he's not attracted to you, he just sounds inconsiderate to your sexual needs. If he didn't finish at all, or couldn't get it up, then I would say he maybe isn't attracted to you. But finishing fast isn't necessarily a bad sign.
But you really need to have a calm, yet serious talk with him. He needs to be satisfying your needs too. Maybe try not having sex with him until he satisfies you first, or you can do something to each other simultaenously. It's up to you guys, just make sure you're on the same page.