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    cndbah Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 29, 2013, 07:17 PM
    How do I handle and get over this?
    I dated my ex for 7 years we were both 13 and split up about a year ago after we had a child. We broke before a few times but he always came back. Usually promising to never leave again you know the average come back to me lines. Well I stayed cause honestly I love him and still do with all my heart. I feel terrible cause I found out he was cheating for the last three years. He didn't start until he graduated high school that's when I noticed those tall tale signs. Thing is I finally confronted him and yes he denied it all and when I showed proof and asked if there was anything else and I knew more than what I lead on he still denied it. Well I thought it was straightened out he started acting like a sweetheart and eventually popped the question.

    About three months later I was pregnant and then he started acting weird again and broke up with me a lot while I was pregnant. But being pregnant and still learning to forgive his past and then finding out he never stopped drove me bonkers I guess he blames me why he doesn't love me anymore and says I am the problem. I know I'm a girl yes I can complain but I for lack if a better term did everything he wanted. He never took me out never called me sweet names mentioned my weight gain during my pregnancy a lot and now that I have his child he's a great father and he's currently doing the same thing to another girl except he finally stopped from what I can see and is working things out but every time they split he comes to me wanting me to be his friend and talk about us getting back together.

    And I don't know how much more I can take if this emotional abuse it's been going on for a year. I would love nothing more than for him to be the guy he use to be the understanding loving and caring one but he's not that. Ever. How do I handle this and get over it.
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    Jan 30, 2013, 02:49 AM
    I am sorry you are going through this girl! I have been in your shoes except I had 2 kids with my ex and was with him for 5 years and found out he cheated on me multiple times and then for the last 2 years of the relationship he was with this one specific girl. I had to end it and when I did he was so sorry and even popped the question... I had to decline! Honey, you have to set boundaries and evenvthough it is hard because you love him its not healthy think about you child and understand that the best thing for your kidis to see you happy and not crying or stressed out all the time. Relationships are built on trust. If you can't trust him then its going to be a very unhealthy relationship that will effect not only you but also your child.
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    Jan 30, 2013, 11:43 AM
    "I don't know how much more of this I can take", really tells me that you are not happy, and will NOT be happy with this relationship. It won't happen.
    Find yourself some new friends. Be honest, and respect others, and you will find someone who really likes you, and you him.
    You will never forget him, but stop letting him control your life. Take charge of yourself, and your life, and stop talking or seeing him. I wish you the best, and good luck.

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