[lodhigous]

A girl have mother, father and all relatives at the age of 13 she was took by a neighbor and sexually abused and tried her to sell to brothel house in Pune India however she escaped from there police cases also happened then she started staying with the same guy. After 2 years she broke with him as he was humiliating her staying with her parents.

A fine day I seen her and found her that she was underwent such situation I was already married by that time with 2 kids I thought that why can’t I help her to settle her life on humanitarian basis. I said everything about me I tried to help her by giving some money, clothes and fulfilling needs to stay at home and also trying to find a groom for her but unfortunately she started loving me and had physical relation. In between us she promised that she won’t trouble me in my personal life as I was already married also I sent her to work for gulf country for some time. There she started having relationship with 55years old man. She came back after sometime to India again. She was started living with the same guy who tried to sell her previously.

At that time we both don't have any communication and I thought that she was settled down with somebody. One day she saw me and again approached me by saying that I cannot live without you again. I went to that guy warned him and took a rent house and kept her by saying that live your life quiet. 3 years passed had many fights because she wants to have other relationships with other guys. I was warned her advised pampered and given counseling that she might affect by any disease but her behavior was not changed after 4 years. She started avoiding me as my financial condition becomes worse she started looking other guy. During these 6 years I was started loving her like a kid but now she left me with deep heart feelings. I took care of everything in this duration even their parents were not allow her to visit their house.

In this situation I was with her by consoling that I am with you don't worry now what is my position. She was informed to my parents that I making her trouble now my parents kicked my butt and sent me out without a single penny. Now she is happy with new 15th boyfriend. Now what will I do? I have no job, no money, and no family.
I always think if something happened to girls in the society every woman organization come forward to help her. What about me? Is suicide is the answer?

[talaniman]

No suicide is not the answer but it will be a long hard road of starting over and rebuilding that you must do.

Sorry you had to go through this, but its well learned.

[lodhigous]

Thanks for the concern right now I am in the position no shelter no money no job no home no parents no kids but she left making me miserable it was 4 days I had no food wearing a pair of clothes even my parents wasn't tried to find me out is this the society for helping the needy get such result why do we help the needy people? So many says that help the needy people why do we help? Now the question is how do I live?

[talaniman]

Not knowing your country or culture, I would think your first source of guidance would be your religious,or government institutions. What happened to your job? Your friends?

[0rphan]

Sadly some people just take without giving back,it sounds like this has happened to you... you feel you have nothing left.

At some point in our lives, we all go through difficult times,feeling that things will never be the same again,it can be any of the things that you have stated and more,however after a short while when you have had time to reflect on all that has happened ,you will see your situation more clearly.

Right now you need support... I know you say no one wants to know you but you have to try... go back to your parents ask them if they will talk with you allowing you to explain your part of this situation... I am sure that they have mis-understood previously.You must have at least one close friend who will put you up for a few days until you can get yourself sorted... go and ask... they may surprise you.Explain you have no food ,money no where to live, when told of your situation I am sure they will help... if you don't ask you won't know.

There will many people during your lifetime, who will lean on you in more ways than one for support,because of your generous nature you will have to be extremely careful not to put all of your eggs in one basket... by that I mean... do not give everything on a whim,ask many questions.

No more talk of this suicide stuff,you are a good person hold your head up heigh and go seek out your parents and your friends... ok so you may not get an instant response... try again until you do... chin up