[Enigma1999]

But when hes with me we're so occupied hes not thinking of her.Its only when hes at work and not with me.Hes bored at work she texts him he text back.He can't possibly have any feelings for her.Can you really have feelings for someone your just having sex with on a monthly basis for couple yrs? No way.he using her right?They don't go out in public.

Those questions are hard for me to answer simply because when I am making love, I am "making love". I have not had sex with someone I didn't feel strongly about.

I don't know him, or his character. The way you describe their sex seems more passionate than the average, just take your pants off and bend over sex. So that I don't know. He may still have feelings for her. Then again, I don't know.

The fact that he texts her at work and you know this makes me believe you don't value yourself enough to say that's it, I am done.

Why are you dwelling on this? If you do want to make things work, then what difference does it make if he locked hands with her during sex?

[Alty]

In your other thread you said things were fine, that you're working things out, that your relationship is built on love.

Frankly, I think you both need therapy. You both need a lot more help than anyone on this site can offer. You don't want advice, you don't take advice, you only want to talk. That's fine, but if you want relationship advice, well, your relationshiop is not one anyone on this site is capable of dealing with.

To everyone posting, read the OP's other threads. This relationship is messed up, and only a certified therapist will be able to help, and only if the OP and her husband is willing to be honest and straightforward, something she's not able to, or willing to do, on this site. It's a waste of time to post, she won't get anything from it, she'll only fight what you post.