[ramu pakistani]

I have this childhood family friend, a girl. I love her a lot but cannot express my feelings positively to her but whenever I do she takes it as a joke or avoid it. I do not know whether she loves me or not. I usually get depressed when she does not text me or ignores me.

I literally do not know what to do with her. She is of the age to get married and I am not yet ready for it because I have to stabilize myself first, as in job etc. At the same time I do not want to let her marry any one else but she does not get it at all.

My question is what should I do now? Should I let her go like that, or should I wait?

I am completely baffled right now, confused. I do not know whether I am being selfish or what. I cannot concentrate on anything especially studies. I have also tried to tell her that "I like u n we should get married" but her answer was "do not expect any thing from me, u are a brilliant guy to be taken and I do not really believe myself to marry u and i have left it on ALLAH "

[TrueFaith]

---(((do not expect any thing from me,u are a brilliant guy to be taken and i do not really believe my self to marry u and i have left it on ALLAH---)))


That right there big boy! Speaks a 1000000000 words. She is not Interested in you at all.
That is like saying. That's Sweet of you to ask. But you're a real special guy! And your going to make someone very happy one day
But that someone is not me.


My advice is. If you can remain friends with her and put those feelings aside then do it. If not then I would cut off contact and try and heal and focus on your life, and get with someone that wants to be with you.

p.s I mean come on. Ask yourself this, If she really loved you. She would jump at the chance to be with you. Nothing would stop her. Not even your god

[Fr_Chuck]

The issue here is, you need to talk to her direct, tell her how you feel and ask for a answer from her. If she laughs it off, or ignores it, that is a answer, it is NO. If she has feelings she will say she does,

If she does not, or ignores you or laughs, you stop calling, stop talking and move on.

[ramu pakistani]

Truefaith.. I exactly thought the same at first but I do not believe so because if she did not want to stay friends with me or it was a NO, she would have told me directly. I know her very well and the point is I didn't give any attention to her feelings back in 7th grade and now after 5 years when I am deeply interested she ignores. She also infers that I have got some body else in my life. May be when I tell her that that some body is not above you only then she understands . I guess I should give her some space and not twist her. Or get a 'no' as soon as possible.

[talaniman]

Maybe she doesn't want you to know how she feels until she sees you living up to your potential. Drop the marriage talk and focus. Enjoy her friendship until you do!