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dwoodlief123 · Sep 14, 2012, 10:03 AM

My husband has worked with a divorced woman for 3 years in very proximity. Their work stations are right next to the other. He wanted her and her son to go to Disney with us on vacation at our time share. I agreed OK as long as she paid her way. Husband bought their tickets with military discount and was to be reimbursed. I paid for timeshare in advance and an extra day that she wanted to stay and was to be reimbursed. Long story short, I got stuck at work very late and Husband & granddaughter and his friend & her son had to go the 1st night by themselves (in separate cars) and I had to follow the next day. After that weekend their chats, texts and phone calls to each other were significantly more than the prior years. Additionally, he went to her house to "fix her weedeater" on 2 separate occasions, making excuses why I couldn't go with him. I asked my husband repeatedly to collect the money she owed us (over $600) and he has yet to do so. He left me 2 weeks ago as he was unhappy and thinks I am crazy and he is just trying to be nice and they are good friends. Past history is husband had an affair years ago and then 1 1/2 yrs we split for 4 months because husband for having an "emotional affair" (he said no sex) with a different woman. He was chatting and tons of phone calls, texts, meeting her and typing he loved her.
When we reconciled after the split 1 1/2 years ago, his grown children disowned him and kept him from grandkids because he went back to me. Now they are back in his life (which is great) but he has not included me. We started back in counseling but only one session so far.

JudyKayTee · Sep 15, 2012, 05:32 AM

Originally Posted by dwoodlief123

My husband has worked with a divorced woman for 3 years in very close proximity. Their work stations are right next to the other. He wanted her and her son to go to Disney with us on vacation at our time share. I agreed OK as long as she paid her way. Husband bought their tickets with military discount and was to be reimbursed. I paid for timeshare in advance and an extra day that she wanted to stay and was to be reimbursed. Long story short, I got stuck at work very late and Husband & granddaughter and his friend & her son had to go the 1st night by themselves (in separate cars) and I had to follow the next day. After that weekend their chats, texts and phone calls to each other were significantly more than the prior years. Additionally, he went to her house to "fix her weedeater" on 2 separate occasions, making excuses why I couldn't go with him. I asked my husband repeatedly to collect the money she owed us (over $600) and he has yet to do so. He left me 2 wks ago as he was unhappy and thinks I am crazy and he is just trying to be nice and they are good friends. Past history is husband had an affair years ago and then 1 1/2 yrs we split for 4 months because husband for having an "emotional affair" (he said no sex) with a different woman. He was chatting and tons of phone calls, texts, meeting her and typing he loved her.
When we reconciled after the split 1 1/2 years ago, his grown children disowned him and kept him from grandkids because he went back to me. Now they are back in his life (which is great) but he has not included me. We started back in counseling but only one session so far.

I think I would have put the "he moved out" part first.

Yes, I'd guess he's cheating, maybe with this woman, maybe with someone else.

Counseling is a good opition - but it takes time.

I'm an investigator. I work matrimonial surveillances. I have learned that there are two types of "cheaters." One type is a serial cheater. The other cheats once and learns a lesson.

I suspect your husband is #1.

Why did his children "disown" him after he reconciled with you?

odinn7 · Sep 15, 2012, 05:37 AM

Based on what you wrote, it sounds like he's cheating on you. You need to decide from here what to do.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 15, 2012, 05:39 AM

If you believe it was just an "emotional" affair, I have some swamp land to sell you. I feel he was having a regular affair and most likely is doing the same now. ( or at least trying to)

So as for as the money, why have you not called her, or why have you not gone over to collect it ? And sounds like there are two cars? If he says he has to go over and he won't take you, why are you not going over yourself, how is he controlling you to force you to stay home? What excuse to make you stay home could it be.

odinn7 · Sep 15, 2012, 05:51 AM

Fr_Chuck makes an excellent point.

Years ago my first wife was doing suspicious things. Always needed to go somewhere but always had an excuse why I couldn't go. A few times I did go... long after she did. I documented what I saw and divorced her.

JudyKayTee · Sep 15, 2012, 06:10 AM

I find it somewhat odd that the title of the thread is about reimbursement of vacation expenses and the "husband moved out" part is at the very end.

I'm not exactly certain what the issue is - ?

joypulv · Sep 15, 2012, 08:03 AM

I think he moved out temporarily. Since they are in counseling, I assume that the intention is to get back together.
But this story does indeed need some more clarification, as well as what your question is. How to collect? If she has been told by your husband that the trip is now a gift, you won't stand a chance in small claims. Even if she hasn't, he got the tickets. Why you had to pay for a timeshare which it sounds like you own is unclear, except for the extra day she wanted. Maybe you can sue her for one day.