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    foxxy29 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 1, 2012, 07:26 PM
    Am I overthinking this relationship?
    I started dating a guy from work we saw each other everyday even if it wasn't after work. Everything was going so good up to about a week ago. He ended up quiting at the shop I worked at and started at another shop. With his new job he has ended up working out of town a lot. He has only been with this new company for a month and I've seen him 2 times. We talk briefly in late evenings due to the long hours he works but is starting to feel like its not enough for me. He will text good morning almost everyday. We have really only been dating for 3 months and I feel like I'm over thinking all of this. I haven't met any of his friends or family yet. A few things that really bug me with this relationship is I feel like I'm still a secret cause when we worked together we didn't want to start a big deal at work so we kept it a secret. I feel like he hasn't told anyone about us that's why I feel like a secret. We spend a lot of time in the house, but he have gone out for supper and a movie before as well. Also with the long hours he works I feel left out cause if I text during the day he won't answer me and hours later I will say hey what's going on? He will answer I'm sorry I didn't respond and tell me why he didn't answer and how busy he has been. I don't think he is cheating I just start over thinking the relationship. If I were him I would let him know what's going on, I wouldn't leave him hanging like he does me.I would put more of an effort than he does me. He treats me good and with repect. I'm not good with words so I have texted him how I feel but once again he didn't answer being busy. So I don't know if I should bring it up or see if he does? Am I over thinking or just being insecure? I want to have fun with it and go with the flow but when I got excited last week that I was going to get to see him after 16 days and he ended up going out of town for work again I started getting bitter even though I have never been this bitter towards him and don't want to be. I love being positive but I can't seem to drop it. Any little thing he does seems through me back into a bitter mood. How can I get over this knowing he doesn't want to be out of town and hurting me like this?
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    Sep 5, 2012, 07:52 AM
    There's only one simple answer. Leave. Find someone who doesn't travel for a job and who can see you everyday.

    There are people in this world that can spend time away from their partner and be perfectly fine, that is who he needs. There are also plenty of partners that don't work out of town all the time, that is what you need.

    Seems like the relationship just isn't working out. It could be time to start looking for a new one.

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