[sweetpea11111]

I have been divorced from my husband for 4 years. The last 3 years I met another man and we fell in love. Recently, my ex husband has come back saying he could never really let go of me, that he loves me deeply and wants me back. Our first meeting felt like we never skipped a beat.

Here is my problem. I love both men. Both want to marry me. Both are great guys. I can't decide which man to choose. We have discussed our past issues and they appear to have been dealt with and healed in a mature and responsible manner.

When I am with my ex I feel great. When I am with my boyfriend I feel great.
They are both great guys. Both have many great qualities. My ex has a sleeping disorder, retires early that leaves me alone most evenings. I have a much larger battery than he. After he goes to bed, I start a second day of work and hobbies.

My boyfriend keeps the same hours as I do, we go to bed together. Both work and enjoy the same things. But, this boyfriend can get stressed at times and take it out on me a little.

I know no one is perfect,including me. I love both of them . I could marry either of them. I just can't choose. Each is great. One is more of an introvert and one is more of an extrovert. I am both introvert and extrovert.

How do I choose? I don't want to hurt either of them. How could this happen? I am pretty stressed about the whole situation. What do I do? How can I decide which man I would be happiest with? Anyone out there with a crystal ball?

Thank you. Your advice is greatly appreciated.

[joypulv]

I'm a practical person. I believe in living together first!
Perhaps you would care to tell us why you got divorced?
And maybe tell us about how new guy can take out his stress on you?
And finally, why you feel a need to marry?

[Fr_Chuck]

There was reasons you and ex did not work out, remember the bad along with the good. Does he really want you or just does not want someone else to have you.

Next you are not ready to choose either till you no longer love and want both.

You need to choose one and stop all contact with the other