[ttolbert]

My father gave up his parental rights to me and my brother when we were babies. We were adopted by my mother boyfriend. My mother and adoptive father are now divorced. I recently found out about my real father and I am 14. I want to see my father and so does my brother but our mother won't let us. Is there anything we can do? My real dad wants to see us too.

[ScottGem]

You have to wait until you are 18. Your bio father (not "real") has no rights to you. They were terminated with the adoption. In fact he can get in trouble by even being in contact with you against your mother's wishes.

[AK lawyer]

When you turn 18 (the age of majority in most states- a year or two higher in two or three). Or, if you are in another country, the age of majority there.

Where are you, by-the-way? In all places that I was aware, step-parent adoption is only possible if the parent and the would-be adoptive parent are married. Or possibly you are mistaken and you were adopted after your mother married the "boyfriend".

[ttolbert]

You have to wait until you are 18. Your bio father (not "real") has no rights to you. They were terminated with the adoption. In fact he can get in trouble by even being in contact with you against your mother's wishes.

We contacted him not the other wayaround

[ttolbert]

When you turn 18 (the age of majority in most states- a year or two higher in two or three). Or, if you are in another country, the age of majority there.

Where are you, by-the-way? In all places that I was aware, step-parent adoption is only possible if the parent and the would-be adoptive parent are married. Or possibly you are mistaken and you were adopted after your mother married the "boyfriend".

In Tennessee we really want to be in his life is there anything we can do now.

[ScottGem]

Doesn't matter that you contacted him. He can't accept the contact without your mother and legal father's permission.

So no, there is nothing you can do now except try to convince your mother to allow it.