[88lamborghini]

Hello , my girlfriend just doesn't seem interested in sex even if she has an orgasm , it just doesn't seem normal , my girlfriend age 29 has a low interest for sex :( I'm worried as we have only been dating 4 months and it's lacking , I love sex and it just seems very opposite for her :( when we do have sex it's wonderful. How should I approach her about this problem ?

[Cat1864]

More background would be extremely helpful. 'Low sex drive' is a relative term when you are comparing it to yours.

Orgasms, while they feel good, do not make a woman automatically want more sex.

Four months is a very short time to really know each other and how compatible you are as a couple especially where communication and sex are concerned.

There are a lot of factors that can affect a person's interest in sex. Many of them occur in cycles such as hormonal fluctuations, job stress, family issues, relationship stress, etc. Others are constant such as health and medications, drinking and drugs usage, exhaustion from a physically or mentally demanding job, etc. Another factor that can be more limiting than the others combined is pressure to have sex. Do you expect or want sex every time you are with her? Do you have dates where sex doesn't come up? Do you show affection and/or intimacy when you aren't expecting sex?

Communication is a very important part of a relationship. Talk with her about what you both expect and need in the relationship. Work together to find compromises or decide that your needs are too different and end the relationship. Understand that she may have things going on in her life that are causing her to not be interested in sex as often as you are. Either you will have to be understanding or walk away and find someone whose needs mirror your own.