[forreal]

Ok, I gave a SHY male co-worker my email and phone number on Halloween 2006 because I wouldn't see him again until March 2007. Well,This guy never called me because of his shyness(I have a spy co-worker who told me what happen). March 2007 is here and I'm going to see him again in 2 weeks.Should I still try to pursue this shy man?

[kp2171]

Well, the only issue here is how much are you willing to do?

You certainly can try again, though some would say doing this in the workplace is risky, especially when he's had a chance before and didn't act. Then again, my wife was once my supervisor in my work before we dated, so I know the right workplace romances can be good... its just the ugly ones that, well, are ugly.

Outside that, the point was how much are you willing to do. Maybe he'll open up. Maybe he's a lot of fun.

Just be ready to run the show a bit. And maybe always.

My wife would go nuts if she always had to initiate everything. You might run into the same problem, even if he does like you and is receptive to seeing you.

So I can't tell you not to pursue him. Id not make any decision until you see him. Check out his body language. You certainly can be welcoming and pleasant and see how he reacts.

If he's not ready to chase you a little, well... then don't be surprised if that's what you get from him, even if he is interested.

[forreal]

A co-worker has told me that he like me but every time I talk to him.He won't look me in the eye and he's tongue tyed

[kp2171]

Well, then... trusting a co-worker is maybe risky, but better than nothing I guess. Just seems a little like grade school stuff to me... bobby told jimmy to tell sarah to tell katie that bobby likes katie stuff.

BUT... hey, that doesn't mean the guy can't be right for you. Think about your past relationships and what went right and wrong. This guy seems to have problems being assertive, at least toward you. Will that drive you mad?

While relationships can progress and familiarity can make it easier, I don't think you can always assume a person will change just because they are in a relationship. So if you do hit it off you should be comfortable knowing you might have to do much of the work... as is do you want to go out tonight? What do you want to do? Do you want to fool around? What sounds like fun? Etc ad nauseum.

Now you aren't going to know anything until it happens, right? So I'm not saying don't. I'm just saying think about whether that would drive you mad. If your answer is yes, you might want to reconsider.

If you are comfortable being the aggressor, then sure, take a shot.

[forreal]

Wow! you've brought up some good point because I've never dated ever in my life and I'm in my 30's.I keep meeting men who are shy or introvert.I want a man to pursue me for once in my life.