[mslove2012]

I have been with my husband 8 years and been married for 1 year and his mother is just a pain and butt she has stole from money jewlery and clothes and husband says that its okay and like I told him its not okay just because that is your mother doesn't make it okay she has called me so many bad names in front of my 5 year old and I'm to point now where I don't want to be with my husband because of her. I tell my husband to defend me and he won't and this has been going on for years and I'm sick of it what should I do

[Jake2008]

It is unlikely that after 8 years, that your husband is going to choose one woman over the other. I would not force that issue if I were you.

When considering your 5 year old, please don't allow her, or anybody else, to verbally abuse you within range of his/her hearing. If you choose to allow your mother in law to verbally abuse you for 8 years, that's one thing, but please don't allow her to do so to your child.

Buy yourself a firesafe firebox, that you can lock. Put your money, and jewellery in it, and keep it locked. You could say that your child is getting into everything and you want to keep him/her safe, and have locked things up.

As to your clothing. Put it all in a separate closet, and put a lock on that as well.

You don't have to say a word to anybody, or expect your husband to take care of your problems with his mother.

If you cannot limit visits from your mother in law, make arrangements to be away from the house if she doesn't treat you with some respect, when she visits. If she visits and you choose to stay home, and she gets on a rant- particularly in front of your child- either ask her to leave, or tell her that because of her behaviour and/or language, you are taking your child out of the house until she is gone.

You don't need to explain good parenting, and common sense.