[flowerpowergirl]

I was with this guy for a year and a half. Very intense relationship had very strong feelings for each other but were both very jealous people we never seemed to find that trust completely. So about 4 months ago we broke up due to a massive argument and long distance (I moved about an hour away).

4 months has passed and we have been very much in contact trying to make this work again. He wouldn't agree to being with me again he just said lets try and make it work again by building up the relationship which is fair enough but I told him and was straight with him by saying I'd like you to commit to me so I know where I stand in this.

We saw each other a few times and each time was amazing and we got on really well then we have arguments when we were apart about silly things like I would gey annoyed because I would convince myself he wouldn't commit to me so he could lead the single life. So the other day I went to a friends party and socialized as you do and made friends with a guy (who I might add was extremely unattractive). We became 'face book' friends and he wrote on my Facebook something casual.

So my ex, if I call him that, messages me the next day accusing me of getting with this guy I'd made friends with and how he never wants to speak to me again. I calmly explained this was not the case to stop looking at the situation in the wrong way, I don't want to be with anyone else etc.

He continued to call me a liar and said have fun being single. He hasn't spoken to me since and I'm not sure what to do. Do I message him again (he didn't even have the balls to call me and discuss his fears) or do I just leave it? Its left me feeling like I have done something horribly wrong. I have a big emotional attatchement to my ex and its not as easy as just saying goodbye.

Please help on what I should do?

[none12345]

So the other day I went to a friends part and socialised as you do and made friends with a guy (who I might add was extremely unnatractive).

Labelling other people as unattractive is just completely wrong. It seems pretty judgemental and what does attractiveness have anything to do with it.

On a side note, you don't have trust with this guy and this guy don't trust you. Without trust you can't make it work. You two should go your separate ways and work on being a better person yourself.

[talaniman]

Your first clue was a lack of commitment, and going along with the friends with benefits arrangements, now he s punishing you for an innocent friendship. Hello, wake up, and never have any more contact with him, and break this silly attachment that benefits him, and NOT YOU!!