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xx2heartz1beatxx · Feb 21, 2007, 02:11 PM

My fiancé and I have a terriffic sex life, honestly. The only problem is I never know how long it's going to last and when it ends I hate the reaction on his face and knowing how it makes him feel as a man. I love him with ALL my heart and soul! There is nothing I would change about him, unless I know it would make him happier, and I know finding an answer to this question, will. He gets so angry and feels that he's not pleasing me, which I am pleased, very much:). This has been happening for about a year, now. Which is weird, to me, because the first years of our relationship, "we could go for hours, and then some" I'm for real. It bothers me watching the expression on his face when this happens, so this is why I'm asking this question. I'm only trying to figure out why this happens so often and how can I help? Or can I? Can anyone help? Or maybe even give me some advice that I can give him... got any ideas?

ordinaryguy · Feb 21, 2007, 03:34 PM

I take it that you're talking about premature ejaculation. Here are some links to give you a starting point. As you'll see, this is something that most men experience to one degree or another.

eMedicine - Premature Ejaculation : Article by Mark Jeffrey Noble, MD

UrologyHealth.org - Adult Conditions - Sexual Function - Premature Ejaculation (PE)

Premature ejaculation

amolson · Feb 21, 2007, 04:04 PM

Howdie! I am a sex toy party rep for the Art of Loving in Vancouver, B.C. We sell a wide range of cock rings which can be pleasurable for him and you while prolonging your sex time. You can get some that have doo dads (what else would you call them?) to stimulate your clitoris while he is wearing the ring. The purpose of the ring is to prevent having the blood flow back down his penis once the erection has occurred. However, it isn't safe to have the ring on for more than 20 minutes at a time. Some people, if using a cock ring often, can eventually wear it for longer periods.

Another idea is to study tantric sex. This is all about the foreplay and becoming "one" with each other. But, I would recommend the cock ring first.

Good luck!

letmetellu · Feb 21, 2007, 06:56 PM

I would suggest that when he has his orgasm, do not let that be the end of the night or whatever time it is. Several things you can try, keep him in you. Continue to thrust just not as hard, talk to him, the mind is the biggest sex organ. If after a few minutes he does not start to regain his erection then try this. Use you hand to fondle him use your imagination and do anything to him that you feel is proper in your mind. Another thing that I don't see how a guy can hold off from getting an erection and that is if the female gives him oral and she does it like she adores his manhood. Keep working with different things, and just remember soon or later he will get over it and come around,, no pun intended.

Skell · Feb 21, 2007, 07:23 PM

Great advice so far. Just be patient and communicate with him. Make sure he knows he has nothing to be ashamed of!

xx2heartz1beatxx · Feb 21, 2007, 09:20 PM

Thanks for the advice so far, everyone. I'm glad to see that there are other's out there that understand this thing. I appreciate everyone's opinion. Thanks again!

kz043701 · Apr 27, 2007, 10:34 PM

Well, to be honest I have the same problem he does. My wife says there is nothing to worry about and that she is very happy. The reason it is still a problem for me, as far as worrying, is that like the two of you, in the beginning we would go for hours on end, and she would brag about it to her friends, and call me Mr Marathon, and she couldn't wait to get back to bed for another round. Since this started, everything has stopped. Even the amount of sex has lessoned.

At least you are being supportive of his issue. I can't explain why he is having this problem. Not to use an excuse, but we have so much going on in our lives that it seems I am losing my libido all together. My wife is so beautiful, but I am just, well, quick on the draw. Kind of feel like your man does, like I have let my wife down. It's hard to let someone you love down. Which is why I am out here trying to find something to help me prolong the experience. I know I could go to the "RING", but I really don't want to cut off the circulation to my tally-wacker, and I would rather not grow dependent on a quick fix like Viagra. I don't want to use the numbing jells, because she will loose feeling an dnot enjoy it as much.

So what is out there?