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Nadzo · Apr 5, 2012, 09:15 PM

I am in a long distance relationship. He loves me so much and he is doing his best for us to marry. But I have a mixed feelings for him like ups, and downs all the time. Some times I feel that I love him so much, and sometimes not, and it's probably because am not so into his family. And something else I always put him in comparison with others! Do I have a sick mind?

ha2oon · Apr 5, 2012, 09:36 PM

Love him back as much as he loves you. Trust me it is not easy as it seems to find someone who will give you a true love. Second, don't ever compare him to others. You will never live in a healthy relationship if you keep comparing what you have to what you don't have. At the end no body is perfect.

talaniman · Apr 5, 2012, 10:10 PM

Face it, you are not ready to marry him. That's not sick, its smart. How old are you both, and how long have you been in this relationship, and why is there a distance between you?

Nadzo · Apr 5, 2012, 11:09 PM

I am 23 years and he is 27 we are old enough, the cause of the lds is that because of his job! And we have been together for 2yrs.anyways thanks for replying I have been looking despearately for someone to hear me because I can't tell anyone around. Abt gow I really feel and I always feel like am cheating and very immature

JJptaylor · Jun 26, 2012, 05:10 AM

You need to really consider whether you truly love him. You can't go into a marriage hesitating. If you're hesitating now because you're afraid to break things off with him now, just think how much harder and worse it will be to break things off when you're married.

Before you call it quits, you need to discuss this with him. He's about to become your spouse for life. Good communication is key to a good relationship. So sit him down and get talking. Don't just say "I don't want to marry you anymore, thanks bye!" Seriously start talking about your feelings. How you've been feeling, what you feel has put a strain on your relationship, how you feel about him/his family/anyone else. And then let him talk. And make sure you LISTEN when he does.

If you truly love him, then you can accept him sans a few flaws which you can overlook i.e. his family (which, let's face it, is beyond his control and therefore not his own fault).

B93 · Jun 26, 2012, 07:16 AM

I can understand u.its quite difficult to endure such things.its normal to get a bit possessive of the one you truly love and you genuinely care for.well,her relationship with the other guy didn't end because of a fight,but out of helplessness.its quite normal that she miss him sometimes.I'd advise you to make your relationship a bit more exciting(by doing things together,spending more time with each other and so on).this will help her to have more interest in you day by day.I know its not a good feeling what you are experiencing but be patient,everything is going to be OK.you should understand her.As u love her,I know u'l do your best to understand her but try to be more affectionate,understanding.. dont worry brother,be patient.talk with her.. tell her to talk openly to u,about her decisions,her feelings and what she intend to do.. try to sort it out together carefuly.As u love her,don't do take any action in anger so that you don't regret it later.ok?
I hope things get better 4u soon.
Take care