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Cuhullain · Apr 5, 2012, 05:12 AM

My girlfriend finds my behaviour embarrassing when we are out together and gets angry and short tempered with me. I am very outgoing but my behaviour is not offensive and her friends all like me. She just has a strong reaction to it and now she wants to end our 2 year relationship, we even got engaged about a year ago. She thinks it's an incompatibility issue but I think we can solve it. We have had a lot of stress lately that has contributed to it. It's the last chance to save this relationship and I know we both love each other, what should I do?

redhed35 · Apr 5, 2012, 05:43 AM

You obviously behaved the same way when you first met and in the 2 years together, your engaged, so there also must be plenty that she loves about you, there is a compromise i.e you tone it down when your out together with your friends, however, it also depends on what excatly she has a problem with, example, does she say your too flirty with her friends or too touchy feely, are you drinking too much?

Can you provide more information, perhaps an example for a more rounded reply.

Cuhullain · Apr 5, 2012, 06:26 AM

I'm never touchy feely with her friends, I never flirt with anyone in front of her (I think it's disrespectful) and I drink a little too heavily, but this has been compounded by the stress of buying a home together and my starting a business where I am alone all day. I use alcohol as a release and am transferring that to exercise as the weather is getting better. But she is annoyed even when I'm sober and talking to her friend that I have known for about 8 years. She says I am too serious and over talkative, but I like to help people with their problems and am quite compassionate and understanding. Everyone else likes me a lot and she only seems to have this problem when we are out with other people. Even when we are out alone everything is fine.

funmum22 · Apr 5, 2012, 06:34 AM

How willing is she to try to resolve these issues?

talaniman · Apr 5, 2012, 09:11 PM

Its rather common for couples under stress to be bad at getting along, given your little time together. I think if you cannot communicate and find a way to resolve your issues, and make adjustments that work for you both, then this will never work.

So get a quiet place, at a quiet time, and calmly talk about it.