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    GoSoonerd Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 1, 2012, 12:59 PM
    My girlfriend and I broke up.
    My girlfriend and I broke up. It's was out of the blue. One day we were looking at houses planning our future and two days later she broke up. She has two kids that aren't mine but I love them as if they were. They don't know their dads so I was their dad. She's telling everyone that I couldn't communicate. She has known me all my life and knows I'm a quiet guy. Anyway she said she caught me doing something that her ex husband did and it made her mad. I didn't do it to begin with. Is she hurt and confused that I'll do just like him. She tells people that she loves me, misses me and is sad. I love this girl with all my heart and soul. And I love the kids so much. She tells people that she needs time. I'm lost. It sounds like she wants to be with me but is afraid of past relationships. I don't want to lose this girl. Any help would be appreciated.
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    Apr 1, 2012, 02:35 PM
    aw.. you seem sad TT^TT Well never fear, Kitty Ninja Is here! ;D anyway.. you're a guy, right? I'll tell you how ti win her back and some possible reasons she broke up with you.
    #1- She might be afraid of commitment. She might be scared that she can't keep you happy and that she's not good enough for you. If that is the case, TELL HER YOU LOVE HER! SHOW HER THIS POST YOU WROTE! She will see how much you care and lover her!
    #2~ She might not love you anymore. It may be hard to hear, but this is possible. Not too very likely, but possible.
    And finally. #3. She might be scared for the kids. She might think that your relationship might not work out and she doesn't want the kids to be upset if it does end.
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    Was this helpful? I hope so! =) Anyway, I hope things work out! <3
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    Apr 2, 2012, 02:14 AM
    Been in a relationship like this before... just let her know and prove to her you are not like her past or her fathers children... its cliché to say you are different from other guys but prove it to her... you need to break open the barrier she has up and figure out what exactly went wrong and make it a point to let her know what you have done for her children... for a man to take the responsibility of taking care of another man's children takes a lot of strength and patience... kudos to you sir... I know I couldn't do it for a fact
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    talaniman Posts: 54,327, Reputation: 10855
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    Apr 2, 2012, 11:52 PM
    Let her cool off, however long that is, and hopefully she sees that she made a mistake. You may know each other well but she has scars still from an ex. Maybe its not fair to you, but she has to unpack her own baggage, and that will take time.

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