[babyg103]

Well I'm 18 years old and the person I'm with rite now is 23 and me and her have been together for a year already and its hard to forget about her past because its very nasty and disgusting and its very dirty because I was a vergoin when I met her and she was my first but then after that she told me about hr past which made me feel disgusted with myself because her ex girlfriend are all ugly ugly and when me and her were first together she started talking to one of her ex girlfriend and I found that messed up because why would she do something to me that she knows will hurt her if I did it ?I'm just really confused ad hurt ?I'm very insecure I admit but I'm really not ugly like I look like a model but I don't like it but she is just so nasty for foin those girl and I feel like she just used me like me and her are far distance relationship but when we are together we forget about everything and it pops up only once but when not together I think about it. Al the time and I tried breaking up with her lik 6 times but I love her and I can't but I'm just real hurt any advice plzz?I'm really hurt?I want to. Get over her past please help.

[Schoolmarm97]

I'm sorry you're going through this, but seriously it sounds as if you're more in love with being in love than you are with this woman. When you truly love someone, words like "disgusting" and "dirty" don't enter into it, and you don't go to strangers to find out how to get around your dislike for the things you know about her.

The fact that you keep going back to her speaks more about addiction and fear of being alone than about love. You need to make the break once and for all and find someone you can love all the way to the bone. This woman isn't the one for you no matter how wonderful she might be. You can't stand things about her, and that's not a basis for a long-term relationship. It's not her past that's standing in the way; it's that she's not what you want but for some reason you can't just let her go and find someone more like yourself.

I hope you can get past this. You're burning daylight while there are other relationships out there that would make you much happier.

[Fr_Chuck]

Why do you feel sex was or can be dirty or disgusting. It is sex.

[mudweiser]

You sound judgmental and very insecure. You've only been with her for only a year and you already tried breaking up with her 6 times-- that doesn't sound like love.

Your girlfriend deserves to be with someone that respects her and knows that the past it the past--- and simply move on.

Sounds like to me you need to grow up and let your girlfriend go for good now. I would hate to be in a relationship where I am judged for what I did before... that's not love.

[mmresd]

This is all you, you need to have some self control over yourself, and you need to cure your insecurities. Maybe it is time to be single and work on yourself, before you can try to work at something with other people involved.