[wifey01]

We were best friend for 24 years right out from high school. Basically I have no one to turn to for my frustration, she was always there for me. The only things I don't like about her was each time after she heard my problem she would post it in her social web about her best friends problem and to added that that was the reason she will never want to be in my position. I forgave her many times for this because I hold her dearly, I never once say anything about her to anyone but my husband. After my husband's infidelity hit on me I had the utmost shocked that she was speaking on the side of 'the other woman' instead of me. She was involved in married man herself and her advise was to keep my eyes and ears closed for what's matter is the kid, just let my husband be whatever he wants and I should tolerate it and do not confront or say anything to him and that I should let it all go.
One day I made it clear to her that I do not want to hear anything about her relationship about her married boyfriend and I just need my time to sort my things out. And yet each time when her guy bought her new lingerie just to sleep with her, she got so happy and share with me. I said he is married, she said yeah I know but when I asked why she still want to get involved (my heart was so devastated due to my husband betrayal towards me). She just replied I don't know, that guy was the one initiate not my problem. That really hurt me so much. I'm pouring right now, can anyone give me some sort of advise>

[Kahani Punjab]

Wifey 01,

No problem. It is quite natural, and do not take it to your heart. It is her problem and never take anything to your heart, until and unless it is too large. Moreover, it is her behaviour and why are you tense? Still, I hope time is a great healer. Talk to her, and sure, something will come out of your talk. Good luck!

[DoulaLC]

I'm wondering why you are still close friends if she repeatedly does things that you have told her are hurtful to you?

I'd have a heart to heart talk with her and explain your feelings. How she responds will let you know whether she is a friend worth holding onto.

You may find that it is time to let the friendship fade, or become not as close, so that you can find more healing and supportive friendships with others.

[JudyKayTee]

Agree with Doula - I think you either end the friendship (and I don't see much merit to the friendship) OR you are very, very careful about what you say to her.

And, yes, I'd be frank with her and tell her about your concerns.

[wifey01]

Thank you Judy, Doula and Kahani. I have not spoken to her since then. I hope she don't contact me, if she does I do not think I have the courage to pick it up. Maybe I just need to get away from her, she's kind of clingy when comes to friends because I listen. I've bigger matter myself to handle and her matter isn't my concern anymore. I've come to a point that I rather not having any friend at all than having all the miseries hold up in me.