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    Feb 22, 2012, 08:05 AM
    What to do if you knew your friend secretly flirts with your boyfriend?
    Hello everyone.. I'm just new here and I really, really need your help because I think that I'm over reacting when my friend who is close to me really flirts with my boyfriend and she never asked permissions to me. I'm afraid that me and my close friend would fight over a guy and I don't want my boyfriend to misunderstand me.. so fellas.. ill be waiting for your answers.. because I don't know what I should do because I don't want to lose both of them- my close friend and my boyfriend.. thanks..
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    Feb 22, 2012, 08:40 AM
    Ok flirting is harmless but if it turns into more then that.. I would be worried. My boyfriend flirts and I flirt. It is a natural thing
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    Feb 22, 2012, 12:04 PM
    Well, this is bothering you. Eventually those feelings will get conveyed in one way or the other. Talk to your friend and simply tell her that her flirting with your boyfriend makes me you uncomfortable. If she's a true friend then she'll respect your feelings and stop. You shouldn't be held captive by your feelings. Set yourself free.
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    Feb 22, 2012, 12:14 PM
    It doesn't seem like a very good friend to me. However, you expect someone to ASK you for permission to flirt with your boyfriend? I don't think that will ever happen. Talk to your friend, maybe she doesn't realize it, she should understand your feelings if she is as close as you say she is.
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    Feb 25, 2012, 12:05 PM
    The only way to let people know that they have crossed a line with you, or make you feel uncomfortable is to tell them.

    But before you do, make sure you have your facts correctly and are not just making a big deal over nothing.

    If you cannot talk to the people in your life, or trust them, they should not be there. Seems to me a simple word to them individually would be sufficient, without making it a big deal, and see what happens. How old are you all?
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    Feb 25, 2012, 12:59 PM
    I would tell the "good" friend, you don't like it and not to do it any more, A good friend would not do this
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    Nov 8, 2012, 07:01 PM
    I had the same problem. Ask her if she likes him, but don't be mean about it. Then with your boyfriend I would just ask his friend if he likes my friend... That's what I did and they both stop doing what looked like flirting. Hope it works !
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