[qiiiz]

Two days ago I sent my boyfriend a text, saying good morning, he shortly sent a text back saying "stop waking me up, you ******* idiots", I didn't answer because I thought he had a bad day but 3 hours later he sent me a text that said that me and my sister where puss*** and that he wanted me to delete his number and never text him again. I got really hurt and angry because of his lack of respect toward me and my sister.

So I deleted his number and everything that had with him to do from my phone. Then I realized that I maybe should say something to him, I told he that I wouldn't run after him anymore and that he really had taken it too far this time, and that he took me for granted. I told him that just because I love him so much he thought he could say anything to me without being afraid of me leaving. I don't know why he sent that text and I told him that it was really low of him to say something like that before talking to me. And I told him to not waste his time writing something back and that he wouldn't write to me ever again.

After that he removed me from Facebook, that was how I sent him that message, because I had deleted his number. I want him back after all, and I regret saying that it was over when I know that he is the one for me, but I am afraid that he won't come back. Do you guys think that he still want me back, loves me and thinks about me, because I know that he really did love me. I myself won't go back to him if he doesn't apologize and contact me at first because he has broken up with me twice before and it was always I who fixed it and contacted him, and if he won't do the same for me, is he then really worth waiting for?

[nitelight198073]

Umm really you don't know the right answer on this... you don't want this type of person back in your life, that calls you names and makes you feel bad. Darlin move on, I am sure you can do better

[qiiiz]

Thank you for your answer but the thing is that I truly love him, and he is the most amazing and funny guy I have ever met, but when he gets angry there is nothing anyone can do to make it better for him. He loves me and I know that he wanted to be with me but his problem is his anger issues, they just seem to get worse. Still I love him, even though all my friends tell me to move on and that he doesn't deserve me.

[odinn7]

Read what you just wrote to us...

Do you really want someone like that in your life? The guy is trash and has no respect for you. Walk away and don't look back. Someone will come along soon enough that will treat you the way you should be treated.

[Swiss_Ms.B]

Are you masochistic? Do you like being treated like trash? Maybe you don't love yourself enough to know that you are hurting yourself by not moving on and letting go.

[qiiiz]

Trust me, I know all of those things, but my heart and brain, they want different things, its hard to follow your heart when I know that I will get hurt and its hard to follow my brain when I know that it will hurt just as much :/ Thank you for your answers, I think I know what to do now! :)
Haha, and no to "Swiss_Ms.B" I am not masochistic.

[Swiss_Ms.B]

Hey quiiz
Read through this! Does anything remind you of yourself? Being masochistic doesn't necessarily have to be in a sexual context.
From wikipedia:
Self-defeating personality disorder is:

A) A pervasive pattern of self-defeating behavior, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts. The person may often avoid or undermine pleasurable experiences, be drawn to situations or relationships in which he or she will suffer, and prevent others from helping him, as indicated by at least five of the following:
- chooses people and situations that lead to disappointment, failure, or mistreatment even when better options are clearly available
- rejects or renders ineffective the attempts of others to help him or her
- following positive personal events (e.g. new achievement), responds with depression, guilt, or a behavior that produces pain (e.g. an accident)
- incites angry or rejecting responses from others and then feels hurt, defeated, or humiliated (e.g. makes fun of spouse in public, provoking an angry retort, then feels devastated)
- rejects opportunities for pleasure, or is reluctant to acknowledge enjoying himself or herself (despite having adequate social skills and the capacity for pleasure)
- fails to accomplish tasks crucial to his or her personal objectives despite demonstrated ability to do so, e.g. helps fellow students write papers, but is unable to write his or her own
- is uninterested in or rejects people who consistently treat him or her well, e.g. is unattracted to caring sexual partners
- engages in excessive self-sacrifice that is unsolicited by the intended recipients of the sacrifice
B) The behaviors in A do not occur exclusively in response to, or in anticipation of, being physically, sexually, or psychologically abused.
C) The behaviors in A do not occur only when the person is depressed.

[mmresd]

Is he really worth waiting for? He is not worth it even if you didn't have to wait...

Leave him, don't go back or then the way he treated you will be taken as it being "okay" and it will only happen again. Find someone that respects you.

[talaniman]

I predict you will get tired of this make up/break up/get kicked in the butt crap that Mr. Amazing puts you through, and do better.

But I like the idea of leaving him alone and not chasing him to get him back. He only treats you this way because you will come crawling back to "FIX" things. Until next time.

[qiiiz]

I'm not masochistic, I kow what it means. I, just like everyone else want to be happy, and I have made my choice now. I was kind of blinded by who he was in the beginning of the relationship. But I have been thinking and he was lucky to have had me. I am not going to run after him again, I know that's what he think that I will do but its over now.
Talaniman, that's exactly what I got when I told him to never contact me anymore, even though I loved him, I just couldn't take it anymore. Its over for real this time. I wish him all the happines and I hope he finds someone who can accept his bad side just as much as the good ones.
Thank you for all of your answers once again, the really did help!