[ellerich300]

My daughter is reently engaged and has selected Sept of 2012 as her wedding date. She is
Aware that I will contribute to her wedding and spoke with her dad as to his contribution.
He subsequently began the conversation with let me see the crackerjack box ring he gave you. The conversation apparently continued to spiral downward to the conclusion that she
Did not want him in attendance for the wedding or reception. She has spoken with her grandfather and his wife who has asked her to reconsider letting her father be a part of
The wedding. She plans to have her brother escort her down the aisle, thus elimanating
Her father and stepfather from the mix. I am unsure her stepfather is aware of this plan
Although he will be in attendance. How will this play out and is she making the right
Decision. I simply stated, I would support any decision she makes. She had been in
Therapy as well partially from the actions of her father in the past... Need advice

[JudyKayTee]

The RIGHT answer is the answer that is RIGHT for HER. It's her wedding. Sounds like alienating the father is not an option - he's already alienated.

She needs to do what makes her happy and not upset on her wedding day. I have seen brothers walk the bride down the aisle just because that's he way she wants it.

Will this be a wedding where someone gives her away? Skipping that part might be a reasonable option.

The Grandparents are undoubtedly well intended BUT her brother is walking her down the aisle - not her father, not her stepfather.

Why do weddings have to get so complicated? At any rate, it's HER day and she gets to pick what happens.

[ellerich300]

I am concerned as I do not want her anxieties to get the best of her worrying what others may think or feel.
The probable good news is that they have chosen to have a destination wedding in Puerto Rico so he probably
Will not attend without an invitation or a booking through her chosen travel agent. I do not know the arrangements in that location as she will be working directly with the hotel coordinator. I will continue
To support her decisions throughout this process.. thanks for your advice

[LearningAsIGo]

I agree with Judy 100%. I can appreciate your concern but what you've told her... that you will support her decisions... is the BEST thing you can do for her. :)
Good luck with it all!

(PS: I'm very proud to say my brother walked me down the aisle) :)