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Am I overthinking things?
So I've been overthinking lately... I think. If I could just get some advice that would be awesome. Me and this girl I've been dating for about two months now have been having an awesome time together. I've know her since high school where she broke my heart but I realized it was probably for the best at the time. We hadn't seen each other in about five years and we both just got out of bad relationships this summer. This fall we began dating and When were together in person its great and we always have something to talk about and were always laughing and very physical with each other. When were not around each other I feel like recently its so hard to get through to her via text! Im not sure if its just my mind or what? I've helped her through a few problems already and I feel like were better because of it but I just can't shake that awful feeling that Im smothering her via text message. What should I do? She seems to let me in on her problems but I think Im just overthinking things cause I finally got a chance with her and don't want to screw things up? Help me!
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First of all, you haven't given yourselves a chance to heal from your breakups. Not good.
Second of all, you're overdoing it with the texts and thus acting needy and insecure. You really want to scare her away? Why not just be friends for awhile and get to know each other without the physical stuff? Give each other time and space. |
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Don't be so carried away with the texting, give her a chance to breath, and do her thing without answering to you. The problem is that you must not have a life without her that makes you happy, and get shaky when she isn't available to give you attention. Cut that out and have your own fun without her.
You know how irritating and annoying it is to stop what your doing for someone that gets scared when they can't reach out and touch you right now? Relax, and let her have fun without YOU. |
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I think it's best to make sure before you enter into a relationship that you first know one thing.
Are you comfortable with yourself? If you can't be happy by yourself it's harder to be happy in a long term successful relationship. You don't want to be her dependent... you want to be her partner. |
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