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    Nov 27, 2011, 10:27 PM
    Am I overthinking things?
    I met this guy through a friend. He knew my best friends boyfriend, but I had seen him on a dating site before hand so when I found out he knew my mate, I messaged him. We spoke online for about a month, or so, when he invited me and my friend (and his friend from college) to a gig he was playing at!

    This was the first time I met him, and I was ill, and had to leave early. So I didn't think I made a good impression, but I left my number for him! He text me the next day asking me for coffee but I couldn't make it due to work.

    Then one night I had off, I asked him round to watch a film. We hit it off, and he asked to come back two days later, when we had a first kiss! He then came round two days after that and we made out a lot! He put on his FB that he had had an amazing night, and came round the next night while his mate and mine were at mine having a drink, and he was very affectionate (he always is).

    We had sex for the first time and it was amazing! We have been seeing each other for two months now. He spends 3-4 days at my house, we don't go a day without talking. When he's with me he's always touching me, whether its my hand, or giving me a cuddle, or kissing my forehead!

    My confusion is we've only been out once to fireworks night in our town center and were always at mine! I don't think he's mentioned me to any of his friends, and his FB still says he's single! I don't want to bring up the talk about whether, or not we're exclusive, as I can't bring myself to bring it up for fear of rejection!

    I've been cheated on a lot, and been hurt, so having him with me all the time even though I know he's not seeing anyone else (he wouldn't have time if he's not with me he's at college with my mate, or at the gym) having single on his FB annoys me, because I think he doesn't think very highly of me, enough to change it, or to tell people about me!

    All my friends keep asking me if were bf/gf yet, and I can't answer cause I don't know! When I'm with him I feel like he's into me, but at the same time he kind of confuses me, because we don't really talk about these things and I don't know if he's too shy, or he's just having fun until something better comes along! He is gorgeous and fit! And I'm a curvy girl with insecurity issues! Hes constantly telling me to shooosh when I say I look fat, or if I'm unhappy with myself! He is really sweet, and his last relationship was 3 years long, and ended 9 months ago because she cheated!

    He knows I've been cheated on too! I don't play games, or blow hot, and cold. He knows I like him a lot, he knows how much I'm attracted to him, but he won't bring up the "are we in a relationship" talk. Is there anything I can do, or say without having to bring it up myself?

    Its coming up to Xmas, and I want to get him something, but I don't know if I should or not! I'm just confused, so sorry, there are probably about a million questions in this one question!
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    Nov 27, 2011, 10:55 PM
    I have always thought that if you could have sex with someone, you can talk about anything.

    The only way to know for sure what's on his mind, is to ask him, and it seems you are afraid, so get up the courage to talk about what you want to know.
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    Dec 10, 2011, 09:51 AM
    Wow I have the same problem you should just talk about it and get it over with sounds to me like you are together... but in the end its your choice.
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    Dec 10, 2011, 10:23 AM
    Yeah we spoke about it n turns out he's too messed up about his last relationship hense why he hadn't made anything official! I gave him an easy "out" and he took it so were going to stay friends ach well!

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