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caliboi24 · Oct 4, 2011, 03:53 PM

This is so hard for me, my husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now. We have always had a wonderful relationship. We get along perfectly. No fights we don't say things that hurt each other, we truly treat each other with kindness and respect. Our only problem is our sex life. We haven't had sex in over a year. He says he is just not interrested in having sex with me. He does however watch porn. I would not have a problem with that if I was still being satisfied. But our love life is gone, we don't have one! I love him so much and know he loves me, he feels like he needs help but am not sure where to turn. He feels like he has an addiction. Please help.

CravenMorhead · Oct 5, 2011, 08:05 AM

It honestly feels like he is using the porn as an excuse. You have said that he isn't interested, why isn't he interested? Has he given you a reason?

It is very hard for someone to become addicted to porn. It is something that rarely happens. He might watch it and wank, but unless he is foresaking work and his social life to look at and wank at porn than it isn't an addiction; just a hobby.

There is something else at work here and you need to figure it out. The why.

Good luck.

winkshine · Oct 6, 2011, 06:10 PM

Porn is no good. It ruins a man's ability to be close with a real woman. He is so lost in the porn world online that he can't connect with you physically. I just went through this with what I thought was the love of my life.
He started ignoring me and nothing went on anymore. I checked his computer and found hundreds of porn sites. It is a terrible thing to do to someone you love. If he does not want to give you the attention you deserve than he can have the porn and go find someone who will treat you the way you deserve. That is no way to live at all.

Cat1864 · Oct 7, 2011, 05:23 AM

Caliboi, when was the last time he had a check up? Like Craven, I think something else is going on and that porn is symptom instead of a cause.

The first place for him to start is with a complete physical. Rule out any medical issues or drug problems.

Because porn and masturbation take less effort than having sex with a partner, they can sometimes mask health issues like erectile dysfunction which can be a symptom of other problems. Once you know he is healthy, then you can look at other problems such as stress or depression and porn.

Good luck.

CravenMorhead · Oct 7, 2011, 08:39 AM

Originally Posted by winkshine

Porn is no good. It ruins a man's ability to be close with a real woman. He is so lost in the porn world online that he can't connect with you physically. I just went through this with what I thought was the love of my life.
He started ignoring me and nothing went on anymore. I checked his computer and found hundreds of porn sites. It is a terrible thing to do to someone you love. If he does not want to give you the attention you deserve than he can have the porn and go find someone who will treat you the way you deserve. That is no way to live at all.

Me and my girl friend would disagree with this. Looking at my 1TB porn collection and my sexually satisifed girlfriend.

Your case, wink, is the exception and not the rule.

winkshine · Oct 10, 2011, 11:13 AM

If porn helps your relationship that is great... in my case it has not and just made him interested in people in the cyber world. He recently stopped looking at it, which was almost everyday. I am hoping it will help us get back our relationship

450donn · Oct 10, 2011, 11:45 AM

If you do not believe that porn is/can be addicting all one has to do is scroll down through this forum and read all the posts dealing with porn in relationships. Porn is the number 1 addiction on the internet. Porn is also near the top of relationship issues. Get rid of the pron, get him into addiction counseling and then get yourself into professional counselling too. If he refuses, then get out. It will only get worse.