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nyxynyx · Sep 1, 2011, 08:26 AM

My girlfriend of 1 year and I broke up 2 months ago. We are both in graduate school.

Background (2 months ago): After we broke up, we met up once for dinner a week after breaking up and I asked her if she wants to get back together, she said no. I probably asked too many times and she was furious. From then on, sms and emails to her don't get replies except for special ones like free furniture etc.

Current situation: Last night I helped her and her best friend move into their new apartment. Her roommate suggested that I stay over since it is getting late. My ex agreed. Her roommate went to sleep first, and after my ex bathed, we spoke a little as we unpack stuff into the kitchen. I notice an increased amount of 'accidental' physical body contacts like brushing of fingers & touching of hand when passing stuff around, brushing of arm when reaching to put things and she even press her boobs against me as we stretch out to put stuff on a higher shelf.

We also lay together in her bed to talk for a while, but I had to sleep on the couch eventually. We rearranged the kitchen and because of all the physical contact, I felt that she is more comfortable with me now and I decided to hug her and give her a few kisses on the cheek. She was holding a pillow so she placed it between us when we hugged, and she did not have any major reactions like slapping me or pushing me away, she just mentioned that we are no longer boyfriend and girlfriend. But I continued to hug anyway and stroke her hair, her face and eventually kiss her. She mentioned to stop touching her hair but did not push me away. We spoke a little while hugging and she said that after giving her some space for awhile, and having some progress in a startup I have been working on, I appear more attractive to her. I asked her out for a movie during this weekend but she said she want to watch that movie I suggested, but alone.

My question is whether this is a good sign that she is now possibly interested in me again, and how does the chances of getting back together look like? I'm confused as to why we have intimate physical contact but not able to watch a movie.

Girls when you have this manner of physical contact, is it attraction?

talaniman · Sep 1, 2011, 11:11 AM

Its called rewarding your pet dog for his help with table scraps.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...nd-547719.html

Yes you are the pet dog, and I am sure you were helpful, and when you are not, she watches the movie alone. Sorry to be harsh guy, but you are the way to eager to please, and INEXPERIENCED.

Ignore this one. I know, but... but... what?

She dumped you, but keeps you around because your helpful, handy,. and easy!

vanheart · Sep 1, 2011, 02:37 PM

Sounds like you didn't got the message.

"we broke up"
"sms and emails to her don't get replies"
"She was holding a pillow so she placed it between us when we hugged"
"She mentioned to stop touching her hair"
"I asked her out for a movie during this weekend but she said she want to watch that movie I suggested, but alone."

Tal's right. The longer you remain her puppy dog, the longer you will be confused.

Don't be her friend. Go NC.

looks · Sep 26, 2011, 06:55 AM

My guess is that it is like this and this sucks you see someone you once was with and it brings back old feelings and once she thinks she can get you back she does not want you anymore why because she starts to think about what she did not like about the relationship if it did not work once why would it now .sometimes a relationship will work the second time around once you have had a chance to muture and understand what it takes to keep it going after all there is no such thing as a easy relationship .