How long do you wait to have the exclusive talk?
Hi
I wanted to get an opinion from others as to when and if you bring up your relationship status with the person you're dating. I just got out of a six month relationship with a guy that I thought considered me his girlfriend. I don't remember how we got on the topic but he sure as hell dropped a bomb on me. Effectively it turned into "I'm not sure I"m ready to say it's just us. I don't know that I can give you a commitment" blah blah blah.
I'm a bright girl and can usually read people well. He acted so loving, caring and sweet toward me. This totally took me off guard. We talked every day and spent at least 3 nights a week together. The relationship started slowly and we took a good, healthy pace. Anyhow, we never discussed our status before and I thought being we are in our 30's the days of casual dating were over. I suppose that's ignorant of me to think everyone is seeking a serious relationship but he talked about wanting marriage and a family.
Going forward I don't want to make the same mistake of carrying on with a commitment phobe. I realize it varies with each couple but do most of you guys bring this topic up within the first couple months of dating? When do you think it's appropriate? Is it typically the guy or girl that raises the question? I've never had to in past relationships as they naturally progressed to something serious. I kicked this guy to the curb but I'm still hurting and feeling rejected. I don't want to go through this again.
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