[twinkiedooter]

Warren Jeffs is an unusual man in that he has several wives and lots of children. Do you think it's wrong of him to live this kind of lifestyle? Would you do this if you had the chance?

[ma0641]

Depends on how "Mormon" you feel. In the Old Testament, even the good guys had many wives. I have enough taking care of 1.

[paraclete]

Warren Jeffs is an unusual man in that he has several wives and lots of children. Do you think it's wrong of him to live this kind of lifestyle? Would you do this if you had the chance?

Difficult question but in these days of everyone wanting to live as they please it comes down to his ability to support his family and not rely on government handouts. Such a lifestyle should not be supported by government. Laws preclude legalising such a lifestyle. I would not do it as I have found one family presented more than enough problems to occupy my waking hours without adding to the burden

[Alty]

I'm fine with it, as long as everyone has a choice in the marriage, and everyone is of age to make that decision.

Marrying 13 year old children (or younger), I'm not okay with that.

I myself wouldn't be comfortable with having a sister wife. I am a one man woman, and I would like my man to be a one woman man, which thankfully he is. :)

[twinkiedooter]

The only one major drawback I can see is if the man worked at a job, paid in enough to collect disability, then got the disability, how much would the government pay to HIS wives and children? Probably as much as we send to one single country in a year!

[Fr_Chuck]

First there is nothing "immoral" in my opinion and can find nothing in the bible against it.

Second, would have no interest in it personally,

[Wondergirl]

It would be nice to divide up all the childcare and housework, but polyandry would be more fun.

[twinkiedooter]

I'd like to have several husbands to nag - more fun for me in the long run. Not too many kids though.

[hheath541]

I don't think there's anything wrong with ANY relationship between fully consenting adults.

If all the adults involved knew what they were getting into from the beginning, and continue to have the right to leave and/or make decisions within the relationship, then it's their choice.

It's only when there are minors, persons incapable of making their own informed decisions, or coercion/abuse involved that I think there's something wrong. Those are the types of polygamous relationships that get the most media, and what color the popular opinion of the practice. There are healthy and unhealthy polygamous relationships, just like there are healthy and unhealthy relationships of every kind.

A few thousand years ago, having more than one wife was a status symbol. It meant that the man was able to provide for all his wives and children. A man would take on additional wives ONLY when he was able to provide food, shelter, and protection for them. It wasn't like the compound situations where large, polygamous families are living off government funds, like the media likes to show.

Now, all that being said, few people could actually handle a polygamous relationship. There can't be any jealousy issues, and every major decision has to be made as a group.


I do want to clarify one thing, though. The actual mormon church (the church of jesus christ of latter day saints) does not condone polygamy. They did away with it in order for Utah to become a state, and any member found to be practicing it is excommunicated. The cases that make it to the media are probably members of splinter groups that use the mormon name without actually being recognized by the main body of the church.


Also, there's a difference between polygany, polyandry, and polyamory. Polygany is the practice of one man having multiple wives, who treat each other as sisters (there is no romantic or sexual relationship between the wives). Polyandry is the practice of one woman having multiple husbands, without there being a romantic or sexual bond between the men. Polyamory is the practice of three or more people (regardless of gender) being in a committed, romantic, and sexual relationship with each other (in which everyone is involved romantically and sexually with all members of the relationship).

Polygamy is the generic term for any relationship in which one person is married to multiple partners, without those partners having romantic and/or sexual bonds to each other.

[talaniman]

If a guy is crazy enough to pursue his happiness with a harem, go for it. My wife is sitting next to me so that's all I got, but honestly, I already have my hands full, and I just ain't that crazy.