[TimothyMDay]

Thank you in advance

I turned 21 on the 9th and this girl who I like a lot (19) she bough me a cake and basically made my day at work, we flirt I think so anyway as we worked closely when there's a lot of space and the touch barrier is broken and more like smiling, the staring you know the typical signs.

She wrote in my birthday card 'good luck with everything! You deserve only the best! Love mila xxx' and well it's been a few months since knowing her and having weekly interaction but not for much longer she might stay on one day a week but no definitive (up to her she said she might though), as it's a charity shop she's there for other reason, I'm a volunteer but I just found out she has a boyfriend just after she and I admitted we looked for each other on Facebook and added each other.

I have urges to kiss her and be a boyfriend because I do care for her I'm not a user so I'm in conflict shall I tell her on Facebook in a format like so, 'do you really have a boyfriend if so he's a lucky person you're a lovely girl' (I mean it by the way I'm not just manipulating the situation) or shall I leave it and be friends?

I need advice because I put my foot in my mouth all the time and I always mess things up.

[grammadidi]

I think you should ask her out for dinner (as a friend) at a place that is quiet enough to talk and busy enough that you won't feel too subconscious and it won't be misconstrued. :) Casually ask her about her relationship and if it's not serious, make it clear that you are interested.

Hugs and good luck!
Didi

[TimothyMDay]

I wanted to on the 3rd day I worked with her but I didn't have the guts or cash

[friend4u178]

She has a boyfriend and she's let you know , to me that's a subtle sign from her to leave her alone.
You could tell her he's a lucky guy to have you and leave it at that , that way she knows your interested but you don't cross a boundary.

[amicon]

She has a boyfriend so she's off limits-what makes you think she's not serious about him?

I'd leave things as they are.

[I wish]

Check out this thread for insights: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

[TimothyMDay]

I stumbled upon this one a few hours ago its helped me but I am tempted to see what happens if I ask do you have a boyfriend and act dumb like I didn't hear or I forgotten I heard it before or saw it

[silver_salvator]

I know that I am only 16 but you should open a conversation with her about weither she has a boyfriend or not I don't think asking her online would be a good idea, face to face communications is always the best communication... and if she turned out to be single I say go for it because you might regret not asking her out!.

[TimothyMDay]

I went for broke I did it over facevook message because I was working on the day I'm meant to work with her lol