[mudweiser]

Well I've had other threads pertaining to this friend of mine whom I've been friends with for such a very long time.. but here's a summary.

Friend meets bad guy who loves to be in jail and deal drugs and do drugs and lots of fun things like that... like abusing her-- verbally and physically. I tell said friend to stay away from him-- he's bad. She thinks otherwise. Stays with him and gets pregnant. I tell friend stay away from him baby doesn't need a man like that. Friend stays. Something happens (no sure exactly what) but they break up (finally!) and she moves back into mother's house. I tell said friend move here with me, stay far from that guy, get full custody with a no contact order-- protect that baby. Nothing. I find out she's still telling him she loves him even though a few days after he kicked her out of his house he has a new girlfriend living there. I keep telling her move on move on stay strong... etc.

Now we are at yesterday. His sister writes something on her Facebook wall-- insulting her and her baby. I tell my friend delete these losers off Facebook you don't need them in your life. Bad guy's sister says more insulting things to her so I sent her a private message and said "Grow a backbone! Do you like to be abused by this family?". Her retort "F--k you! You stupid b*tch-- F--k off...stop fighting like a 2 year old".

Now I'm hurt and angry.

I write on her wall saying how could she do that to me-- when I've tried my hardest to help her and that that guy ended our friendship.

More hurtful things are said from her.

I block her off FB and my phone.

My question: was I wrong?

[talaniman]

No, because you have done you best to be a friend, now let her be mad and frustrated while she learns to do better, and figure what the right thing is. She will, eventually, but for now she needs the time and space for the emotional dust to settle, and her head and heart to clear.

If and when she wants to reconnect, she knows how, so don't worry, but send her a prayer, and let the dust settle, hers, and YOURS.

[NeedKarma]

Nope. Always be on the lookout for toxic relationships and exorcise them from your life.

[amicon]

NC's the best thing here Muddy,you tried,it didn't work-her loss.

[mudweiser]

Thanks guys... I was doubting myself. I'm just sad that things had to end this way.

Blah... c'est la vie.

[amicon]

You can never save another person,they can only save themselves.

(C'est domage,mais c'est vraiment la vie.)

[mmresd]

No, you did your job as a friend. Let her be, they seem to be made for each other.

Good Luck,
Javi

[DoulaLC]

So sorry it had to come to that, but you did what you could. She will likely see that some day and regret her behaviour.

I'd have ended it as well.

[HistorianChick]

Nope. It's time. Sometimes you just have to let your friends deal with the consequences of their own actions and decisions. You've tried your hardest to help her on numerous occasions. She has rejected your counsel time and time again.

I'm sorry to say that she is not your friend. You are hers, but she is not yours.

[smoothy]

You did right... just because this old friend decided to take their life down the DARKSIDE... doesn't mean you have to accept it.

They made their bed... let them sleep in it.

I've had to turn my back on others in the past... and likely will in the future.