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onang · May 9, 2011, 07:06 AM

I see.. thank you so much amicon. This is really helpful.

dwidrick · May 9, 2011, 07:35 AM

There are many variable for why this happens and I am not going to pretend that I know a lot of them haha. But coming from experience I know that with some women it takes a while for them to let down their wall they have up for a man to finally see what they are truly like. This is not necessarily a fault of either side but this wall tends to coincide with their full personality and once it comes down then the women is usually in live by that point.

To put it plainly, it takes time so see all of what the other half is all about... sometimes it just takes until one side is fully invested before things, good or bad, are realized.

amicon · May 9, 2011, 08:21 AM

Good luck onang,look after yourself.
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ironhide262 · May 9, 2011, 08:53 AM

They will make girls fall in love with them and after that they will just break them?

I have heard guys say this very statement about girls too.

That's a very big question... you never know exactly what anyone is thinking, anytime.

In general though, you should never just give your heart away... people must earn it!

talaniman · May 9, 2011, 10:27 AM

They will make girls fall in love with them and after that they will just break them?

Its never them making you do anything, its always you who are responsible for yourself, and what you do.

Love is a big risk we take to get a very rich reward. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. The important thing to know, is what to do when it doesn't work like we want it too.

That's why you give yourself time to heal properly, and then you can decide what you want to do about it. That's why you also give yourself the time to know if the risk of giving your heart to a stranger is worth it, or not, or if they deserve it.

Most times its us who fall quick and hard, and get carried away by feelings, before we have all the facts. Getting facts takes time also.

Its all about TIME, and how you use that time that counts. You can't hurry love, and you can't hurry a proper healing.

Leave this guy, and his whole family alone, and heal properly, because they are all being nice, and civil to you, so don't get false hope from this.

onang · May 11, 2011, 12:25 AM

Thank you talaniman.. yes, you're correct only time can tell. Right now, I'm shifting my focus to my family and friends. I'm happy to myself because I'm brave enough to surpass this challenge of mine. I Admit, before I was having a hard time coping with it because he was my first boyfriend. And, I'm the type of woman who is serious when it comes to relationship. Before I enter any kind of relationship I always see to it that I'm ready and sure about it. I just don't like to hurt other people's feelings but in the long run I ended up being hurt by the person I love the most?

onang · May 11, 2011, 12:33 AM

Do I need to reply or say thank you if my ex greets me on my birthday?
I'm on NC with my ex now, but sometimes when he texts I have the urge to reply to him. My birthday is coming so what should I do if he greets me? I just want to be prepared. I'm serious to the NC rule because I still have feelings for him. I want to move forward already so what should I do? Your response will be appreciated.Thank you:)

ironhide262 · May 11, 2011, 04:59 AM

If you are really serious about NC then why can you receive texts from him?
But, to answer your question, No, you don't have to reply to him... you're on NC.
Delete his number from your phone and eliminate any other ways he can contact you.
Best of luck to you!

onang · May 11, 2011, 05:07 AM

Thanks ironhide. I already deleted all his contacts, his number on my phone and I already blocked him in my Facebook account. I was just asking about that because he has my number. Anyway, thank you. I'm still serious in NC rule.

thadevilsadvocate · May 11, 2011, 08:33 AM

Agree with ironhide... he is no longer your boyfriend, therefore you have every right to do as you choose. You are your own person and have NO obligations to him.

amicon · May 11, 2011, 09:40 AM

NC=no contact-delete his messages without reading them if you can't block his number.

mmresd · May 11, 2011, 09:44 AM

You need to keep up with the NC and not be reading his messages. Just erase them. Better yet, change your number and stop contact with him altogether. Also, you never HAVE to do anything...

Good luck,
Javi

Fr_Chuck · May 11, 2011, 10:09 AM

If you are on NO CONTACT, you don't read any texts he sends, don't listen to voice mails and don't open emails.

So there will be nothing to respond to.