Going forward you don't put as much importance into them - yes the yare important - BUT they also on their own free will can leave.
If you're loving someone too much - well, that's very unhealhty.
You need A LOT of other things in your life - the one you love is onl you small part of your life - not your life. You make them your life and you WILL be in a lot of trouble.
You need work, friends, family, WORKOUTS, school, religion, hobbies, etc.
Go to this sight and it may set you straight -
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