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nyyaankees11213 · Mar 31, 2011, 06:42 PM

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now. We have been fighting kind of a lot latley no real fun and doing routine things all the time. She tells me she would like a break to figure out what she wants out of our relationship. She doesn't no if she sees us having a future together. She is also saying that she doesn't no if she is into the relationship thing anymore. How could someone just do this after four years together? Another thing to add is that she takes aniexety medicine and I have read that these types of medicines can mess with peoples emotions and sex drive, both have seen better days. Any advice

amicon · Mar 31, 2011, 10:55 PM

You give her a break,though I'm inclined to think this is a breakup-all the signs are there.

People's feelings change and sometimes things don't work out.

Make sure you keep yourself busy and do things that make you feel good,so you can start enjoying your own life again.

Devorameira · Apr 1, 2011, 06:29 AM

I know it's painful, but there's nothing you can do... seems like her mind is made up.

Some people take breaks and do get back together. It does happen, but not very often.

Accept the "break" and live your life as if you were broken up for good. Heal, then date other girls. Don’t hang out with her and don’t contact her. This is the only way you’ll stay sane throughout “the break.” Treat it as if it were a complete break up. Who knows? Maybe once you see this break for the break up that it really is you’ll find that it is you who doesn’t want her anymore. Either way, this girl has cut you loose; it’s about time you did the same.

talaniman · Apr 1, 2011, 01:30 PM

Let her go guy, that's all you can do, and don't blame the meds on her feelings changing toward you. Many married couples go through the same thing, they have a change in feelings after a while.

That's just a reality of life, so let her go do whatever.

nyyaankees11213 · Apr 2, 2011, 07:59 AM

I agree with the responses. I have not contacted her. I wanted to add to my original question. She has told me that she still loves me, two weeks are a long time, etc things of that nature. I believe this was all caused because of me being to attached to her so in this case I almost think that a break is a good thing. I have had a chance to take a step back from everything and really just look at our relationship. I realized a few things about myself that I just don't like such as the clingy thing and pretty much just not having my own life. I got away from who I really am. What do you lads think?

amicon · Apr 2, 2011, 08:29 AM

Finding yourself again is a really good thing.

Stay no contact and keep moving forward.

talaniman · Apr 2, 2011, 08:30 AM

You got dumped, accept it, and do for yourself without holding out hope for the relationship. As time goes on you will make changes, and rebuild your life. That's all a part of the healing process, and living in reality.

You are responsible for your own happiness after all. Understandable your thoughts are filled with her, and what has gone on between you, because its only been a few weeks. Making adjustments will just take longer, so don't be impatient, like the rest of us would be, and have been, LOL!!