[Genchan]

Before you start bashing me or whatever, I just want to give you an idea of who she is. So tell me if its she's a keeper or a scammer? Be warn that this is going to be long so read on if you like.

I met this girl on a dating site "singlesnet", I messaged her and she gave me her Yahoo. We talk and she became straight up honest with me that she does webcam/sexcam modeling. I wasn't angry or whatever and I find it OK for her to do it as long no other guys are touching her. So we talked, learn more about each other and I asked of her where abouts and the address leads to her residence in Denver. I decided to ask her out on a date and she accepted.

The first time I had ever set eyes on her, I was blown away by her beauty and I was "star" struck if you would say. So in our conversation during our first date, I asked her how she ended up in Denver with the current job. She told me that she lived in Arizona with her relatives, working for a family restaurant under the table for a couple of years and she came to the US with a tourist visa along with 10k to start with. She told me that she doesn't like her current job because she doesn't even know if its even legal and wants to find a decent job so she can continue to support her family back home.

Into the late month of January, I got messages from her on Yahoo that sounded very distressed and haven't seen her on for days. I got freaked out and decided to head out to her place one afternoon and ask the residents about her. An elderly man told me that she was being escorted out by a gentlemen who was professionally groomed, dressed, trenchcoat, and wearing a sunvisor. It took just a few days before she was able to log on again and told me what happened and come to find out, where she was at, the one who was running that webcam ring had illegals working for her boss. The place was raided by the Denver PD at 4 or 5 in the morning and sadly she got shipped back to the Philippines.

She told me about her sobbing story of how much her family had sacrifice their businesses just for her to come to the US to help her family back home. She was trying to get back ASAP but she was short on 800 bucks to be able to reapply for her visa to come back. Her mom thought about selling the farm to the bank to make up the rest of the money but I told her to tell her mom not to. If it's the only thing left out of her family inhertiance to keep them alive, then they shouldn't sell it. They decided not too. So what I did, I let her borrow that 800 and she did what she told me that she was going to do, apply for her visa but she also has a schedule for her interview at the embassy.

So being back home for about a month, she fell ill and I end up researching well over 30 hours on natural remedies and herbs. She took my advice and I even send her an extra 200 for her meds. There was a time where her mom walked into her room and saw me on her computer screen and asked who that is, and she proudly told her that I'm her boyfriend.

When her mom wondered where she was getting the rest of the money for her visa and her meds, she told her that it was coming directly from me. Her mother is thankful but said that I shouldn't even worry too much since her mom makes some sort of income. I even sent another 100 recently because I wanted my girlfriend to consume certain food and ingredients to help her recover faster from her illness.

In due time, it helped her along with her meds. When she was ill, she kept wishing that I was by her side to take care of her when she's sick. When she was able to stay on Yahoo longer, I end up learning more about her. She graduated with a nursing degree, took the national exam and passed, not just once but twice to uphold her integrity. It was hard for me to believe but when I asked her when she took the exam and passed, I end up looking for her creditbility on their government website and sure enough, her name popped up on the list and exact mo/yr she passed. But to become a paying nurse in the Philippines, you have to work for the government for free for about a year before they start paying. I end up finding it weird but when I asked my co worker who was also Filipino, he told me that the Philippine government is just like that. I was informed by my co worker that if I was going to go for any Filipina, make sure she's a nurse or a graduate with a nursing degree and Catholic. Go figure, my girlfriend is just that.

My girl seems very legit even though her and I dated only once but she emphasize that if she cannot make it back to the US, she would like me to visit her once a year if better, twice. To make it more proper before I can continue dating my girlfriend, I ask her mom for permission and luckily she allows me to continue dating her daughter.

I thought about proposing to this girl within the next year or two and I'm hoping that she's not one of these girls who just wants to marry me for a green card.

I know it seems like I haven't given much information but what do you think of this? I would like your input because she tells me that she's in love with me after all that I've done for her and the only way she would want to repay me is to love me back. Is she a keeper?

[talaniman]

She would be a keeper if she does as she said, get her visa, get back to you and seek employment. Strikes me as odd, she has not served her year if that's what is required to earn a living at what she was trained for, but your time line is a bit fuzzy, how much time has gone by since she was deported, became ill, you sent money, and now?

Time will tell if she is a keeper, or a scammer though, when words, and actions match... or don't. Are you objective enough to know the difference?

Just me, not enough information to tell the difference, and I would certainly be looking for a LOT more information than you have.

[Devorameira]

It's way too early to tell whether she's a keeper. The whole situation seems "unusual" to say the least.

Only time will tell if she's legit. If I were you I would definitely stop being so free with the money... there is a possibility that money is all she's after.