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    delilah123 Posts: 23, Reputation: 0
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    Jan 12, 2011, 09:57 PM
    How to stop my parents from making me get an abortion
    I'm not pregnant but my mom said if I get pregnant early and if she finds out I will have to get an abortion. I want to keep my own child.
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    Jan 12, 2011, 11:23 PM
    Hiya if u don't mind me asking how old are u... at the end of the day its your choice what you do with your baby no one can make you do anything you want to... you have made the mistake now you have to live with it... you make the right choice for you and not your perants good luck hope every thing works out for you
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    Jan 12, 2011, 11:46 PM

    I just want to point out this part of the OP's post.

    I'm not pregnant
    If you're not pregnant than why are you worrying about this? Are you planning on getting pregnant?
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    Jan 12, 2011, 11:47 PM

    Since you are 13...

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ng-539122.html

    Having a baby is not a healthy decision for you. There are so many things that can go wrong at your age.

    Why not try to be the child that you are and stop playing grown up games until you are grown up.

    Your parents are not ready to be grandparents to a baby who may have physical or mental difficulties due to your poor choices as a 13 year old.
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    Jan 13, 2011, 04:58 AM

    Delilah,

    With reading your other posts it is obvious that you are moving way too fast. The guys you have picked recently to become close to are not thinking of you at all. They may tell you great things, maybe even how much they love you, and make you feel good, but they will lead you down a path of nothing but trouble. It is so clear that they are wanting you to be involved in things that you and they both should not be considering.

    If they really cared about you they wouldn't ask you to do anything that could harm you or get you into trouble would they?

    As was said, sex at your age is dangerous to your health. If you did become pregnant, how in the world do you think you would be able to take care of a baby and all the expenses that go with it? What if the baby was ill and needed to be in hospital for awhile after it was born... which is more common with young mothers? Who pays for that? Where would you live? Food? Jobs? Electricity? Phone? Health insurance? Do you like your sleep?. with a baby you would have very little of it. Do you like to hang out with your friends?. with a baby you would not be able to do as much.

    What goals do you have for yourself? What type of career would you like to do when you are older? You have so much of your life ahead of you, now is when you should be having fun with friends, focusing on your education, learning about the things you may want to do in the future, setting goals for yourself.

    Want to know what sort of guy you are with? Tell him you are not going to have sex with anyone until you are older and married. See how long he wants to remain being your boyfriend.

    He will either accept it, be understanding and respect you... continue to try and talk you into it, but eventually give up and leave to find another girl who will do what he wants... or he will leave very soon after you tell him.

    Think and be smart about your life.
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    Jan 13, 2011, 05:08 AM

    You can stop them by not putting yourself in a position where you would even need to be considering this. The decision to abort or continue with a pregnancy is difficult at any age. And definitely not a decision you want to be faced with any time in the near future. It would be best for you to abstain from sex all together until you are ready emotionally and financially to deal with the consequences. But if you want wait, at least use protection to decrease the chances of becoming pregnant. You should be on some form of hormonal birth control and always always always use a condom if you decide to have sex, although it would be best for you to wait until you are much older. Even with birth control, there is always some chance of becoming pregnant. And you also have to be careful of stds.
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    Jan 13, 2011, 05:54 AM

    Of course the boy will not be there to help, since he will be in prison as a child molestor or rapist, I am sure your parents will see to that. *** and he should,

    Next you first just don't have sex, so you will not get pregnant and will not have to worry about it.
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    Mar 1, 2011, 09:45 PM
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    I'm 13
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    Mar 1, 2011, 09:49 PM

    And 13 is way too young for sex.
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    Mar 1, 2011, 09:49 PM

    Well, to answer your question a woman always has the right to choose-I think this applies to 13 year old mothers as well.

    THAT being said--please consider everyone's plea to enjoy your youth. I don't know what the rush is, because you'll have all the time in the world to be an adult when you get there in just 5 years. While you're still young, enjoy not having responsibilities. It breaks my heart to see someone so young worrying about things like this.

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