Originally Posted by
craigusw
i have been seeing a girl for 2 to 3 months we had a split last year for a week she got back in touch and we went out together again untill last friday.
I spent christmas with her and her family we had a good time, we went out on NYE and things were mainly fine ( she was dancing with an ex of hers I went to the toilet came back and he was holding onto her hips and dancing with her)
Honestly, I’m all for letting your girlfriend dance with someone but when it’ an ex and they start holding each other she’s just flat out being disrespectful to you. Then to do it in front of you shows she has no maturity and quite frankly no concern for you.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
last friday she said that she had been thinking about an ex of hers called ben who had hurt her by being violent through drink and drugs she broke up with him twice and saw other people but took him back and then broke up again then found me she has been split from him for around 8 or 9 months.
She has severe emotional problems. Most women claim the reason they stay in those situations is because they can’t get out. Well she got out twice and wants to go back again.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
She text him and then met him on thursday night ( after seeing me and saying that she was going home as she was tired and not feeling well)
In other words, after making excuses and lying to you. The worst thing you can start doing for yourself now is making excuses for her behavior. She lied to you. She lied to about where she was going to be. She lied to you about who she was going to be with. She’s a liar. She can’t be trusted.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
she said that they talked and that he wanted her back and that he is not happy with his current girlfriend, they kissed but nothing else.
Well she’s lying. They did more. Second, get real and look at this woman’s character or rather her severe lack of character. She is about to interfere with another couple and cause a break up. And she is hooking up a with a guy that she knows is capable of cheating, so she’s only setting herself up for more pain and failure down the road.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
we spoke about this on friday night i was really cool about it and talked her feelings through for her ex she says that we need to break up as she is still in love with him and even though she dosent feel tat he is going to be good to her she still loves him,
So she’s stupid.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
she says that she finds me attractive and that she cares for me but she dosent want to be unfair to me by remaining in a relationship while she still loves him.
She’s trying to let you down easy and set up on the back burner when this doesn’t work out or she gets knocked around again so she has someone to come complain to.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
she asked me if i would forgive her for kissing him
HUGE MISTAKE. You did not need to offer her any forgiveness. From the woman’s stand point it showed you as weak. From a moral stand point she screwed you over.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
and i said yes as long as you break contact and don see him again,
Craig, you are smarter than this, you know she’s going to see him again. She told you what you wanted to hear because she wants a back up plan.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
but the next day she then said we are still broken up im so confused as to what is actually going on how can she be so hot then cold and how and why did she ever contact him in the first place.
She likes to play games. With you she can play and win. With him she can’t. What she’s doing is attempting to break him down because he’s a challenge to her. With you she wants you on the back burner so that when he moves on she can have you as a back up plane.
Originally Posted by
craigusw
is she testing me or something ..please help im really confused as to what to do ...
She’s not testing you, she’s using you. You are the back up plan. When the guy that beats her up is done with her she can come to you for emotional support and you’ll always be there forgiving her. Let her go forever NOW before you get sucked further into this mess