You are being paranoid. That's it. He is saying something to someone that he has known for several years, and all he is saying how are things going... a common question you ask to anyone who you know for a long time but haven't had contact in a while if you ask me. Don't do anything because you THINK something is going to happen because of the irrational fear that you are experiencing. Because if you do, and it comes out, and trust me, when you do spiteful things they come out, and he didn't do anything you just betrayed him. If you don't like something he is doing, if it is nothing wrong, then you are going to have to look the other way, stop looking at his Facebook or take him off your news feed. Don't use the "jealous woman" excuse that so many girls do... FIX IT! Jealousy is a sickness that rises from insecurities and faulty confidence... this is your issue so you fix it yourself, it takes work, trust me I used to be REALLY jealous, but it is something that you have to fix on your own, not something that he should be involved at. If you are sure he loves you, then you are going to have to learn to trust him, since clearly you don't already, let me warn you this type of actions from you not might, but WILL end your relationship it is a clicking time bomb if you don't learn to control yourself, so start working on it ASAP!! Because without trust there is impossible to have a successful relationship (I have learned the hard way, please don't do the same).
If you tell him you read it, it will accomplish two things, 1) you will be showing him how much you DON'T trust him. And 2) that you are willing to disrespect his privacy at a moments notice without any hesitation at all.
If you don't want to be in this position again, STOP LOOKING!! Because when you do, you go in there with a negative state of mind, and let me tell you, a message saying "Hi" to any girl will bother you, so stop before you cause yourself any more internal damage, and specially before you make the damage spread to him as well.
Give him a wake up call? Are you crazy? He has done NOTHING!! He said hi to an old friend and you are not even supposed to know, if he didn't want you to know is probably the same reason of why I am writing this to you. You are over reacting and need to have some self control, and if you can't then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. If he had something to hide, you wouldn't find it anyway, so stop looking. If you think your small detective work will ever pay off let me warn you now that the only thing it will do is end your relationship (and future relationships), and make you emotionally exhausted, please stop, I have been in your shoes more than once and trust me when I say that it can get pretty ugly... So, just enjoy him as your boyfriend, and chill out about all the stories that pop up to your mind, it takes work, but if you love him, which is what you should be doing since he loves you, then just enjoy time with him instead of creating havoc in your mind every time you see something "strange". Your own personal and relational aspects of your life will be much happier that way, so fight to achieve it. It is all in your mind.
Good Luck,
Javi
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