[dethomas]

My fiancé has been talking behind my back with other women on the phone. I answered his phone the other day and the woman said "hey baby missing you and thinking about you". I questioned him about it and he said I should trust him and shouldn't have answered his phone and he still has not told me who the woman was. And now he won't speak to me saying I'm just being jealous and insecure and he can't marry anyone like that. Was I wrong or is he cheating?

[Jake2008]

What a strange response from the woman on the calling end, to hear another woman pick up on the receiving end, and say, " "hey baby missing you and thinking about you". You would think that when she did not reach the intended party, (your fiance), hearing your voice, she would have hung up right away. Did you talk to her? Did she say "oops, sorry, wrong number... ".

You also say that he has been talking to 'other women', as in more than one. So, which is it. And if it is more than one as you said, how did you come to know about them in the first place.

If it was perfectly innocent, and you just happened by his phone and picked it up when it was ringing, that sounds harmless enough. To get the response you did from your fiancé when you asked him about it, was a bit extreme in my opinion. Implying that over one phone call, he is reconsidering marrying you?

If you actually went looking for trouble by snooping in his phone records, or crackin into is email, then I would say you might be jealous and insecue about him, and if someone did that to me, when they had no reason to breech my privacy like that, I would be very angry. But, all you did, according to you, was simply happen to answer a ringing phone.

I suspect that there is more to this than just a 'wrong number'. Do you have other reasons to suspect that he is messing around?

[Devorameira]

He says he doesn't want to marry someone who's jealous and insecure. The question is, do you want to marry someone who's sneaking around behind your back?

Many men have women friends and it's okay as long as they are open and up-front about it and their partner is aware of it, but sneaking around is a bad sign.

Your really should reconsider this relationship.

[rockerchick_682]

If I was dating a guy and I answered his phone and some other chick called him baby then I'd be angry too! It seems like he's trying to avoid the situation all together. If he won't consider your feelings then maybe it's best to break it off, or at least focus on you for a while.

[talaniman]

Why even consider marrying a guy who cannot answer basic simple questions that you ask, for whatever reasons you ask them.

I wouldn't marry him either, I wouldn't even be with a fool like that! Why are YOU?