[ladyme]

I had sex on July 11th with my boyfriend. Had sex on July 19th with an ex. I founded out I was 8wks. Pregnant due to my ultrasound on aug.27th. My due date is apr.6,2011. I don't know when I got pregnant. Need help!

[justcurious55]

In ideal conditions, sperm can live in your body for about a week. It's impossible to figure out exactly when you become pregnant. You'll have to wait until the baby is born and have a dna test.

[ladyme]

That's what I don't want. I told my boyfriend I was pregnant by him. I'm only 19. His parents is telling him to get one

[Justwantfair]

It is irresponsible to not inform both parties of the situation. A child is a responsibility for 18 years and beyond. You made a mistake, don't compound the problem with dishonesty. Your child deserves to know his biological father. The potential fathers deserve to know the truth.

You know this child is yours, you are carrying the baby. They don't have that privilege. Do the right thing, no matter the consequence to you. Both men and the child deserve that.

[justcurious55]

Well, what do you want to do? I'm guessing the last word in the sentence you didn't finish would have been abortion? Is that what you want? I don't want to push you towards keeping the baby, adoption, or abortion. But you should make an informed decision. Because no matter which choice you make, it is a huge decision. Abortion carries emotional and physical risks. Having the baby carries physical risks, there's still going to be a lot of emotions and stress, and you have to be able to provide for your child for at least the next 18 years.

In any case, I think it's best that your honest with both guys. They should both be aware that you're pregnant and it could be from either one of them. That's not going to be an easy task but, it's better now to let them know then later down the line dropping it on either one of them.

[ladyme]

@juswantfair thanks a lot!

[ladyme]

@juscurious55 NO! I don't want an abortion,I'm 4months today! I just want everybody to be happy.. but I got in my head its my boyfriend baby. I want to be sure before the baby gets here. I don't want to do a dna test,because I'm scared to death to find out

[justcurious55]

@juscurious55 NO! i dont want an abortion,im 4months today! i just want everybody to be happy..but i got in my head its my boyfriend baby. i jus want to be sure b4 the baby gets here. i dont want to do a dna test,because im scared to death to find out

You're being completely selfish. It's not fair to your child or boyfriend or the other guy to not get a dna test. You can't get to be sure before the baby is here. The only way to be sure will be through a dna test. If this is not your boyfriend's baby, and it might not be, then it's not fair for your child to miss out on knowing his or her biological father and it's not fair to the other guy to miss the opportunity to know their baby and it's not fair to your boyfriend to shoulder this responsibility if this isn't even his child.

[ladyme]

I am going to let my boyfriend get a dna test... I told the other boy about the situation! So thanks...

[justcurious55]

That's good. I wish you the best of luck

[ladyme]

Yea. Thanks