[Linnette1973]

After dating a guy for 4 months and things are great from both our perspectives we talk everyday together every weekend for past 4 months why not agree to be exclusive. Why do guys prolong this step? How can I bring it up with making it sound like the woman's being pushy? Is their some underlying reason that he's not revealing? Any insight will be helpful.

Thanks

[rebeccahstrean]

Set a romantic night together and then just talk while having dinner or on a walk. Just start up a conversation then let it lead up to that part in the conversatin.

[Devorameira]

There are some fellows out there that do want to be in exclusive relationships.

If you want an exclusive relationship and he continues to say he doesn't want one, you shouldn't be worrying about his feelings- he's not worrying about yours.

When he calls for your weekend rendezvous, you need to be busy. My suggestion is that you date other people. If he really wants to be with you, he'll be willing to provide you with a committed relationship, and if he isn't, then he's not worth your time.

I'm sure you're an attractive lady who'd be able to find someone who values you in no time at all.

[Cat1864]

You could make the observation that neither of you are seeing anyone else and haven't for x amount of time so why not make it official that you are dating exclusively.

Talk with him if you want to know what he is thinking. Do you have to have the words? Does he think the words are necessary?

[manga]

I find it contradicting when you state "why not agree to be exclusive" then the following questions "Why do guys prolong this step? How can I bring it up with making it sound like the woman's being pushy? Is their some underlying reason that he's not revealing?"

Why not agree to be exclusive implies you've asked already. How can I bring it up with making it sound like the woman's being pushy? Implies you did. There's a hidden agenda in your question or maybe not thought out clearly.

I really think you have asked and have been pushy. You're now trying to find other ways to reason with your failures to accomplish being exclusive.
If this is true then neediness is the problem.

[Cat1864]

Linnette, please do not use the rating box to reply to a post. As you can see it has extremely limited space and is cutting off your responses. Instead, please, use the Answer this question box at the bottom of the page.

You have already had the 'talk' with him once and have been dating only four months. I think you are looking for more than just 'let's go steady.' To me it seems like you have a schedule in mind and it seems to be more important than getting to know him and allowing the relationship to move at its own pace.

A relationship isn't like a project or term paper where you can set a time table for having things done with a deadline of getting married or shelving the relationship. It is more like a garden where you plant seeds and take care of them. You nurture the feelings but they have to grow and bloom at their own pace.

[manga]

Thank you for your reply in clarifying. I hope things work out in your favor. In situations like this patience would be a great favor in your part. Part of the doubt would not be there if you simply would ask him. You would not be pushy if asking him once what he thinks.

i.e..
*Name of date* I really appreciate the time we spend together and my feelings are growing for you. I don't want to make any assumptions on where this friendship is leading to. I'd like to know what you want and see if things could open possibilities for us.

Something of that sort.