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    needtobesmart Posts: 8, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 19, 2010, 06:41 AM
    I want to be away from parties and crowd.
    I don't know why I am so. But I finds that I don't feel comfortable to attend parties or group conversation. I always tries to avoid them. This is not a new habit of mine, It's there since childhood. But it's hurting my life more as I am professional now and have to attend parties and lot of team events.

    Can you help me out if it is normal or something I have to look out for?
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    Devorameira Posts: 2,461, Reputation: 981
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    Oct 19, 2010, 07:31 AM

    It's possible that you are just anxiety ridden. There are tons of people out there that feel the same way.

    If you're really having a problem that you think is affecting your life, then maybe you should talk to a counselor to get to the bottom of the problem.
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    Oct 19, 2010, 08:18 AM

    Really, this is about how badly it affects your life. I'm not mad on parties, I tend to regard a group of people as hard work. I'll go, and I'll concentrate on talking to the people I need to, making sure that no-one is left out, and as soon as decent, I get out and read a book. Hostesses love me, I'm so willing to help with serving food and cleaning up after. So much easier than talking to a crowd of people!

    I don't enjoy it, but I learned how to do it, and most people consider that I'm good with a crowd.

    If you can't go into a crowd at all, then you might want to get professional help get over this. If it's just you are not comfortable, it's a matter of learning the techniques that help.
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    Oct 19, 2010, 09:19 AM

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ml#post2573114

    Sounds like this is the challenge you need to develop social skills to go along with your technical ones. See it as a challenge to overcome, outside your normal comfort zone. As Ellen said, start with being useful, and move to friendly as needed.
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    Oct 19, 2010, 12:37 PM
    Your just shy probably, I have that same problem. When I'm around groups of people I just stand or sit there and listen and not ever talk. I like to have at least like 3 people that I know around me, but I'm usually a one on one person. The thing that I can tell you is that when your in a group conversation wait till you know at least a little something on what they are talking about then you can put your opinion in. Or if you don't know what they are talking about its OK to ask questions no matter what people think of you. Don't let it get you down. I have to work on it still but its helped me A lot. I hope it works for you:)

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