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    Oct 16, 2010, 11:55 PM
    My girlfriend has split up with me, how do I get her back?
    Im gay and I have been with my girlfriend ( Sarah) for 2years, we had a break of 7 months when I split up with her because I couldn't see where 'we' were going. This really upset her and she text me lots but then it stopped, I was seeing someone else which was a crap relationship. I was always thinking about Sarah and eventually I just text her saying hi, did she want to meet up, she was understandably cautious but 'we' saw each other a few times then all the feelings came back and 'we' got back together. That was 14 months ago. She has never told anyone she is gay and in a relationship. She started uni in September and hated it to start with so I was as supportive as I could be but encouraging her to stick with it. Soon she started to love it and became distant within like 2 weeks she's broken up with me. She said she doesn't know how to balance everything. Meaning she can't ever see herself telling her family about us, she has only told a few people at uni she is gay. She said she felt like she was lots of different people. She says that she understands now how I felt and she understands just how crap I am feeling now. I started by being upset and telling her I would wait for her and I loved her etc etc, then I sent a text saying I agreed with the break up and sorry I was all emotional and that it's given me time to make changes in my life, to try to give her space. We text a bit but really it's just me asking a question that she answers because I'm missing her! What should I do now?
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    Oct 17, 2010, 01:11 AM

    FYI Stop texting and start talking.
    Its called communication!
    Try it!
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    Oct 17, 2010, 03:01 AM
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    You are spot on with that. Texting is pants! Why am I so stupid. Do you think I should leave her alone altogether though?
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    Oct 17, 2010, 10:06 AM

    Yes you should leave her alone to find herself, because its obvious she isn't ready for a healthy, adult relationship, and won't be for quite some time.

    She has a lot of growing to do, so let her.
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    Nov 20, 2010, 12:36 AM
    I think you should follow your heart if you really love her you'll do what is right!
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