[geenic]

I broke up with my ex boyfriend 9 months ago. During these 9 months we have been keeping in touch and been trying to get back together but we always ended in arguments. I always decided to stop talking to him but after some time, I contacted him again and then he pissed me off and I stopped talking to him. This cycles kept going for few times and for months until recently I decided to stop talking again because it's not doing me any good.

All I want to know is what is he doing with me and why is he doing this to me? He kept telling me it's over and yet he still tells me that I'm someone special to him and still gives me the importance. He will also often sent me texts if I disappear for few days to check on me. He still want to do things with me but no sex involved. This is really confusing me as what I am to him?

[Marriedguy]

Why did you guys break-up was something that you wanted or something he did?

Either way you need to start following the no contact rules.

[talaniman]

He is doing nothing to you that you are not allowing, and in some cases instigating. For whatever reason you keep the door open you need to close the door and stop all contact with him, no matter what he does and why he does it.

It really is that simple and you need to curb your curiosity as to his motives and intentions to end your confusion.

Read the stickies, https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/

[answerme_tender]

He is keeping his options open or should I say hooked. Your not the first person to go through this. I let my ex play that game with emails for almost a year. Now keep in mind the word here is " I ". He couldn't keep me hooked if I didn't allow it. I finally wised up and put in the NO CONTACT rules that I learned from here. I feel a lot better about myself and that is all that matters. It might help to read some of the post from other people and the advice given to them, it helps.

[vanheart]

"recently i decided to stop talking again because it's not doing me any good. "

Keep that up.

[beachloverjohn]

YOU broke up with him so for some reason he wants you to be available to him if and when you decide to go back to him. That's all it is. But it sounds more like he broke up with you, so he is keeping you hanging on a string so he can reel you in whenever he likes. You should not give him that option, and remove yourself from his grasp. If I were you, I would suggest he joins a bridge club, and hope he jumps.. {figuratively speaking of course}

[geenic]

Haha... that is so funny.. never thought of that..

[itsnancyy]

Your really not the only person going through this at all. Most of my friend and myself is going through the same problem. Seem like he wants his opions open. He just don't want to see you with someone else nor want to KNOW that he's going to loss you to someone else better? Cause that always kills them inside. Believe it or not he won't stop bothering you until HE finds someone else. So just ignore his text and calls... as hard as it seems to do but if you want this silly relationship to END. You need to cut all contacts with him or else YOU won't get to meet someone else who's worth your TIME:)

[geenic]

I did put a stop to it but recently his friends got to me. He saw me with another guy and he went all crazy. His friends came to me and told me how disrespectful of me for him. We are not in contact anymore and both of us are still single. Recently I found out he still have feelings for me. I didn't make any moves to contact him or anything.

But am still not really over him and I don't think he is as well. Its coming to 2 years since our break up.

[geenic]

I need help on what I shld do.. I know I still feel for him too..