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Jake2008 · Oct 4, 2010, 08:08 PM

Hate to admit it, but I've never attended a Stag and Doe. Done a million showers, but never a Stag and Doe.

I'm going to one Saturday night, and it is at a rented hall.

Do I bring a gift? Just a card? Give them money?

As to the couple, he is a friend of my son's, and we've known him since he was little. Have never met the bride to be. She is from England, and they will be getting married here in Canada, but moving to England shortly after.

And, these things are casual as a rule, right?

Thanks.

JudyKayTee · Oct 6, 2010, 08:29 AM

I have never heard of such a thing - I have absolutely no idea. Fascinating. If you want company, call me - I'd like to see what this is about.

Jake2008 · Oct 6, 2010, 09:55 AM

You would be a lot more fun than my date...

A gay couple I know that recently got married had a Stag n' Buck I think it was called, and the invite was on Facebook, and there was a comment from one of the organizers about a wishing well, and tickets that had to be purchased, which included some sort of food, I was out of town for it unfortunately.

I'm just going to get them a card and put a few bucks in it- pardon the pun. The probably don't need to be paying for shipping of gifts to England. I'll wear my usual black jeans, black t-shirt and maybe dip my face in some makeup. Bases covered!

Im beginning to wonder if maybe this isn't a Canadian thing.

J_9 · Oct 6, 2010, 10:09 AM

Wonder if it's like a his and hers shower?

Jake2008 · Oct 6, 2010, 10:13 AM

Maybe it is J9. I'm going to feel pretty stupid showing up under dressed, with no gift. My son has not responded yet, I'm not sure he knows the fine details of this, but I know another person who is going, I'll see if I can find him on Facebook and ask what it's all about.

Should be an interesting weekend to say the least.

J_9 · Oct 6, 2010, 10:21 AM

Ta Da!!

Stag and doe - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Wondergirl · Oct 6, 2010, 10:21 AM

I think it's a bridal shower for both the bride and groom. (Dear Abby had mentioned this a while ago.)

Here's from yourwedding101 --

Stag and doe parties, or buck and doe parties as they're also called, are designed to raise money for the couple's wedding. Hosting this type of pre-wedding party requires a lot of careful planning. As the intent is to raise money for the couple's wedding the stag and doe party must make a profit, hopefully a large one.

The profits from a stag and doe party are raised through ticket sales. That's right - guests pay to attend a stag and doe. Far from being a point of contention most guests are all too pleased to buy a ticket. Not only does the money help the couple financially, but the guest also gets to enjoy good company and have a great time. Often if the guest can't attend the party personally they'll purchase the ticket just for the sake of the bride and groom - now that's a great friend!

J_9 · Oct 6, 2010, 10:24 AM

In this economy I think it's a pretty good idea!

Jake2008 · Oct 6, 2010, 10:25 AM

OMG it is a Canadian thing! Laughing here... sheesh. Did not think to Google it, thank you for that. A fundraiser... interesting. I guess I'll go with the card and money then.

Thank you very much for that. We shall see how it all goes Saturday night.

J_9 · Oct 6, 2010, 10:26 AM

They do it in the UK too. Only there it's called Stag and Hen.

Wondergirl · Oct 6, 2010, 10:29 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

They do it in the UK too. Only there it's called Stag and Hen.

Shouldn't that be Rooster and Hen, in keeping with chicken terminology? Or Bull and Cow? Or Tom and Queen?

JudyKayTee · Oct 6, 2010, 10:42 AM

Dip your face in makeup? LOVE IT!

(Is this like the restrooms that are marked something like Ganders and Something Else and I always stand there, not sure which one I am?)

Jake2008 · Oct 10, 2010, 06:30 PM

Well, it was indeed a fundraiser. Held at a small rented hall, complete with tickets, draws, alcohol of all description, games, music, spin the wheel, etc.

They had a really cute Octoberfest theme, so everybody looked like a character out of Chevy Chases' European Vacation- remember the dance during Octoberfest? Really funny.

Admission was $15.00/couple, and they sold sausage on a bun with onions and saurcrout (not sure how to spell that and too full of turkey to look it up), for $3.00.

Met the bride to be, a lovely girl from England, and all the friends and family, many of whom I knew from the growing years.

I ended up winning a TOOL SET!! Complete with a ratchet set. The tool combo of my dreams, complete with a case. Now to find a place to hide it. Husband is jealous- he bought the ticket, but I won the prize. Makes sense to me.

Had a fun time, took some great pics, and left before people got stupid.

Sounds like the bride and groom to be did very well. :D