[Zesty209]

My daughter is 1.5 years old, her father left me for another woman when I was pregnant. I've spent a lot of time being angry, because he talked about getting married and confessed his undieing love for me, then a month later, he walked out on me. During my baby shower, I found out he was dating another woman with 2 daughters of her own. Her oldest daughter was friends with his older daughter (an 8 year old girl from another mother).

So now he's got 2 children born out of wedlock, one with me and one with another woman... and he's getting married to this home wrecker, who knew I was pregnant and didn't care.

I'm still angry, I kicked his butt in court for child support, and he already paid child support for the other daughter. I almost wonder if he's getting married so quickly because he needs to live on a dual income household to support his lavish lifestyle? The man had a house keeper and a gardner, and now he's out about 1600.00 a month between both child supports he pays.

I'm also still very much hurt. He's going to live in the same household with this new woman and her children, and he had no interest in being a real full time father to his children.

I lost my job, my home is in foreclosure, I have no health insurance, I can hardly afford food and he never once looked back to see that I'm still laying in the gutter with his child! Now he's getting married and he announces it to me like that's a good thing, like I'm suppose to be happy for him. When really deep down inside, I'm still hurt, angry and living through pain day in and day out.

[talaniman]

Sorry for your misfortunes, and pain, at this hard time in your life. Seems you have a lot to worry about, and honestly I can only offer you prayer, and support, and a cyber hug at this time, as inadequate though they may be, as you try to heal, and make adjustments.

He will get his, no worries about that, even as you overcome your own circumstances, because the GOD that I understand don't like ugly, or evil.

>CYBER HUG<

[Devorameira]

Sounds like you're really having a difficult time, but as Tal stated, he will get his in the end. He's obviously not the prince that you hoped he would be.

I know that you're feeling hurt and rejected, but you may be lucky that you didn't get stuck with him and his cheating ways. Also looks like he's really lacking in the "daddy" department.

It'll be hard, but you'll get over him soon and you'll be able to go out there and find yourself a good man who'll love you and be a father to your baby.

[answerme_tender]

When our ex's walk away they very rarely look back. For a lot of them they would have to face the destruction they helped cause. Sometimes its ourselves that we have the hardest time forgiving. Its easier to come to terms with our part in the relationship, for falling for this person in the first place. Once we can finally forgive ourselves is usually when we can finally go a whole day without even thinking about him. Its your time to start picking up the those pieces. It won't be easy and you still going feel like you have been to hell and back. Do you have any family or good friend that maybe you could make a fresh start by moving close to them. They can help with baby so you can find a job. Or check with local churches to some help, if nothing else they will listen. Keep us posted,and remember your not alone.

[smitapatil]

Whoever has less emotions and feelings, recovers faster. Men often do as they are less tied to their responsibilities but some men are very responsible as well. If there is a way to seek support from a church group or some other network to share the burden of raising your child. You will otherwise hate your child as children have a way of eating up a lot of time. Managing ones money is important and making proper financial decisions for yourself and your child. Do you want to find may be a couple that wants to share the responsbility of child rearing.. . like a relative or someone like that. Sometimes there are people whose grandchildren have grown up as well.. who would be happy to lend a hand through a church network or something like that.

I am not religious myself but I think modern (not fundamentalist) churches that respect modern women who are independent can find ways to support single mothers and find individuals who could give free financial advice. As I have no relatives in North America and my in laws are backward, I went to an epicostal church for some months and got a lot of support for my family though I was not a single mom.. . it was a laid back kind of church not too traditional.