In Alanon they do teach/preach the concepts of enabling,as as much as we don't want to look at ourselves as such, we are.. all of us do this for addicts in our lives,I know I do..
By allowing him to stay,even for the last X months,there has been a certain amount of enabling(as well as support,parenting,, of a 35 year old:( ), and for what?You are being let down each time you leave the house for more than a day.
He has been through 2 treatment centers?and hasn't decided to accept that he is an alcoholic?
He hasn't hit a bottom yet, and when he is down far enough,there has been a cushion there(mom and dad), tough love is in order here.
Time to cut the cord,allow him to either do for himself or fail on his own.
IF, and I stress IF,he reaches this bottom on his own, not when YOU think he has,but when a third party does(someone(s) with no ulterior motives),perhaps then the parental responsibilities are necessary.Until then, how long are you going to raise your alcoholic child?
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