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    #21

    Aug 19, 2010, 08:18 AM

    Okay, I broke no contact. I sent him email telling him we didn't need to have any further contact. That I wasn't going to be his whore. I use to think he was good person, but have come to different conclusion after all this.

    This was extremely hard thing for me to send, I really wanted to let him have it and go nuts, but I made it very professional. I am really shaking right now, but I do feel like I have move self respect, if that makes since
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    #22

    Aug 19, 2010, 08:47 AM

    It makes sense, but let that be the last communication. You don't want to be going back and forth with him. That does not allow you to heal.
    If he responds, don't read it or return it.
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    Aug 19, 2010, 09:29 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by jillia View Post
    Okay, I broke no contact. I sent him email telling him we didnt need to have any further contact. That I wasnt going to be his whore. I use to think he was good person, but have come to different conclusion after all this.

    This was extremely hard thing for me to send, I really wanted to let him have it and go nuts, but I made it very professional. I am really shaking right now, but I do feel like I have move self respect, if that makes since
    Hmmm... In my opinion you sent this because you want to start a dialog with him. You want him to fight for you, maybe a little ego stroking.
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    #24

    Aug 19, 2010, 09:59 AM

    Sending anything shows that you still care.
    Even if it's a "screw you"
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    #25

    Aug 19, 2010, 10:53 AM

    I know you are right---Back on the " NO Contact" wagon. Man, I hope I can stick to it.
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    #26

    Aug 19, 2010, 12:01 PM

    Hang in there girl. It's tough, but so are you.

    Try to focus on how absolutely screwed up this situation is. I mean come on... do you really want to share your partner with someone else?!

    Would you share your underwear with other people? Eeewwww...
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    #27

    Aug 19, 2010, 12:43 PM

    LOL--now that's a whole new way of looking at it!!
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    Aug 19, 2010, 06:28 PM

    Even if he did say to you lets get back together would ever really be able to trust him after all of this? I know I wouldn't.. Seen in time and time again even from personal experience men like him don't change.. If he thinks he will get away with it he will do it!
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    #29

    Aug 24, 2010, 01:15 PM

    Okay, so I started putting a post it on my computer with number of how many days I have gone with no contact. I was feeling pretty good about and everyone would ask about the number, but I would just say its personal. ]

    So he contactd me yesterday about the email I sent last week saying I didn't want anymore contact with him. No more emails , etc. Like I said then I didn't tell him off like I wanted to, just perfessional. He emailed that he didn't know what he did wrong to make me write an email like that. Also that he was having panic attacks and he feels he is a very caring person. I did email back that I was sorry to hear he was having paniac attacks, that geez he didn't have those with me, but I just didn't feel like putting myself out there anymore for him and he might want seek professional help for those attacks.

    I got to tell you all, I was more upset that I had to change my dang post them back to the number 1!! Don't get me wrong I still love him, but I have read and read a lot of stories and advice given and know that I will survive. Just wanted to keep everyone who is helping me posted,
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    #30

    Aug 24, 2010, 01:31 PM

    He sob story sucked you back in & you responded.

    Just stay NC. Now.

    That's the beauty of NC, eliminates that drama.

    You are the one in control.
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    #31

    Aug 24, 2010, 04:41 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by vanheart View Post
    He sob story sucked you back in & you responded.

    Just stay NC. Now.

    Thats the beauty of NC, eliminates that drama.

    You are the one in control.
    Yes, pleas do that.
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