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    littlelady2010 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 10, 2010, 05:29 AM
    My boyfriend has just physically hurt me what do I do?
    I wanted to c my mum and he wouldn't let me, so he pushed me and stamped on me, we have kids I don't know what to do?
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    Aug 10, 2010, 05:31 AM

    Hello l:

    Call the cops.

    excon
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    Aug 10, 2010, 05:35 AM

    You are in danger - You need to call the local domestic violence shelter and the police and get out. Safety must be your first concern. If need be, they can place you in a woman's shelter where you will be safe.

    Things will only get worse... abusers never change without years of counseling.
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    Aug 10, 2010, 05:48 AM
    You need to get out and fast... report this and get it on record then LEAVE!! this will damage your children the older they get to watch them and I know that's not what you want.. he will tell you he is sorry and it will never happen again but it will... put a stop to it now!!
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    Aug 10, 2010, 05:56 AM

    The Cycle of Abuse | Domestic Violence Wheel | Emotionally Battered Women

    Have a look at the cycle of abuse,just scroll about half way down,does this sound like you?

    For now,call your mam and get the hell out of there.

    If you can't call your mam,make an excuse to go to the shop and call then,or a neighbour.

    You have been attacked,and if your scared he will do it again,he probably will.. it won't stop unless you do something.

    Grab a little bit of courage and the kids under your arm,you don't need anything else (someone else can pick up what you need) and GO!

    Don't look back.
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    Aug 10, 2010, 07:13 AM

    Get away from him any way you can, and call the cops, your mom, or any one else that can help. You are in a lot of danger, and so are your kids.
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    Aug 10, 2010, 07:14 AM

    Leave immediately, there is no excuse for that.
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    Aug 10, 2010, 08:05 AM
    You have been given good advice. I hope you act on it.
    Domestic violence is real, it's ugly and it can be deadly.
    Don't put yourself or your children at anymore risk.
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    Aug 12, 2010, 08:04 AM

    Leave him OP please have nothing more to do with him he's an abuser, and he will hurt you again and again, and one day he just might go too far and end up killing you, or one of your little ones, Please you must go, phone the police and they'll put you in touch with the women's aid or battered women if you're in USA.

    Don't tell him you're going to leave though and wait until he gone to work or a time when you know he won't be back for a long time, you have to get your children ready too so make sure you'll have enough time.
    I can't stress to you enough to please leave him, you're life is in danger literally.

    Ive been where you are read my own story: HERE
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    Aug 12, 2010, 08:20 AM
    He did that to you just for wanting to see your mom? This is the first time? Well it's the last time.
    Do not let your kids watch this type of behavior. What if he then hits your children. You need to listen to everyone here and get out now. Safely. There are no excuses that you cant. You do it for your children and yourself.
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    Nov 6, 2011, 07:34 AM
    I hate that this is happening to you. I can't imagine how scared you must be. I was so emotionally abused that I didn't even know where the line was anymore. We all have boundries, (what I would never allow in a relationship), but if you stay in an abusive relationship, somehow the 'line' gets lost.

    I would like to leave you with this; there is a woman in jail where I live who lost her baby son at the hands of her husband. He punched the 18 month old in the stomach and killed him. She went to jail for knowing about the abuse and not reporting it, not removing the child, not protecting the child. Laying a hand on anyone... yes even you!. is illegal.

    If you can't find it in yourself to leave him for you, then leave for your children's sake, and because you leagally have to. It is illegal to have your children in this environment. Period! Please leave him no matter what you have to do to leave saftely. Plan and execute your plan. I wish you all the best.

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